[Randle McMurphy]

I have witnessed time and time again over my life people thinking they are perfect, that they could never cause problems for others and that they are above criticism. it's part of the reason I feel so misanthropic. the amount of times people just will not accept accountability for when they have caused problems for others or started trouble. its like everyone is engaged in a psychological game of road rage! you know when drivers just fight with each other constantly and no one will ever accept they might be in the wrong and say sorry. I am starting to think it's just a fundamental part of humanity's ego that people cannot accept the idea that they might be wrong or the cause of a problem and we simply cannot detach from that or rise above it.

[SorryShaped]

Does it help to know that I'm usually wrong? It's why I trust myself so very little.

[MsLady]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

Does it help to know that I'm usually wrong? It's why I trust myself so very little.

By your definition, you must always be "right", then lol

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by MsLady

By your definition, you must always be "right", then lol

Funny, but no. I'm wrong.

[mote.of.soul]

Originally Posted by Randle McMurphy

I have witnessed time and time again over my life people thinking they are perfect, that they could never cause problems for others and that they are above criticism. it's part of the reason I feel so misanthropic. the amount of times people just will not accept accountability for when they have caused problems for others or started trouble. its like everyone is engaged in a psychological game of road rage! you know when drivers just fight with each other constantly and no one will ever accept they might be in the wrong and say sorry. I am starting to think it's just a fundamental part of humanity's ego that people cannot accept the idea that they might be wrong or the cause of a problem and we simply cannot detach from that or rise above it.

Yes. Objectively, there must be fundamental causes for this beyond reproach effect of ego, but I do agree with you, yes. As one person put it, "We all think we're the good guy." I think in 95% of cases that's true, and the other 5% percent seem to think they're the bad guy regardless.

Life must be a spiritual inner journey of growth as much as it is anything else I believe, and I hope it's not too late for the planet, to be honest.

[Travelinglady]

I don't think so, to answer your question. Or if it is, as we mature,,we should grow out of it, unless we develop psychological problems --such as egotism.

[oldbutwise]

There's an old story I heard when I was a kd in the 70s. One day the medicine man called all the braves to circle around him. He took some white sand and made a large circle on the ground. Then he took some black sand and drew a much smaller circle in the middle of the white circle. He asked the braves, "What do you see?" One by one all the braves said the same thing: they saw a black circle. The medicine man said,"Tell me. How is it you saw the small black circle but you did not see the larger white circle?"

If you look for the black circles in life you won't see that there are very many more white circles.

[lizardlady]

I've met a few people this applies to (original question) but I don't believe it applies to the majority. I know for a fact I screw up at times. I see no point in denying when it happens. It doesn't feel real good to admit I made mistake, but would prefer to admit to it, learn from it and move on.