Would you rather be seen as overly naive or overly paranoid?

rdgrad15 · Aug 27, 2022, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

Yep rdgrad,museum ghost,they do label us with some kind of disorders.When I refused to put up with one of my aunt,she told some other relatives that I had a psychotic break down while visiting her and she took me to psych ward and took good care of me.A blatant lie.She was the one who is a psycho,so to speak.I stopped visiting her long ago.She pretended to be on death bed and called my parents and asked to see me one last time. I knew she was lying and I didn't go to see her.She enrolled my sibling and my sis told me to visit her and that she was dying. I didn't. Guess what? She is still alive after a decade.Talk about mind games and drama.Most probably she was missing her naive victim( me)

I'm sorry you had to go through that, unfortunately family members can be the most toxic and the best at playing mind games. That's why I've grown to not trust family members and not tell them anything personal, anything you say or do in front of them will result in them judging you. Sometimes it feels like you're exercising the Miranda rights, anything you say or do can and will be used against you. Glad you got out of that situation, sometimes what may come off as paranoia to others is really just us wising up and seeing things for what they really are.

rdgrad15 · Aug 27, 2022, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

I don't know anyone who is happy when they're paranoid. Ignorance is bliss for a reason. I'd say people who are naive are happier than people who are paranoid.

That may be true to an extent but I'd rather be seen as a bit paranoid than naive, you can be a bit paranoid and still be happy. A small amount of paranoia doesn't mean you're accusing everyone who smiles at you or slights you in the smallest way possible is out to get you, that's a completely different problem in itself.

Mendingmysoul · Aug 27, 2022, 10:37 AM

Yep, I too agree that naive people are happier and ignorance is a bliss to an extent.But only if left alone for their entire life time.But how many times that happens? At some point in a naive person's life,someone comes along and takes advantage of their naivety. I am yet to witness a naive person who is not used by toxic people out there.And many times they are pushed into danger zone because of their gullibility.

rdgrad15 · Aug 27, 2022, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

Yep, I too agree that naive people are happier and ignorance is a bliss to an extent.But only if left alone for their entire life time.But how many times that happens? At some point in a naive person's life,someone comes along and takes advantage of their naivety. I am yet to witness a naive person who is not used by toxic people out there.And many times they are pushed into danger zone because of their gullibility.

Exactly right, I really only know one person that is in their 30's and is still incredibly naive and can't take social and behavior cues from others which could honestly be the result of other issues unknown that person may have. Most other people learn to become less naive and more assertive overtime, everyone including myself who has been naive at one point has been taken advantage and was forced to become more cautious and aware of what's going on as well as seeing things for what they are.

manofmanynames · Sep 05, 2022, 04:27 PM

I would prefer to be seen as overly paranoid. I don't find it a hard choice.

rdgrad15 · Sep 05, 2022, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by manofmanynames

I would prefer to be seen as overly paranoid. I don't find it a hard choice.

Yeah I can agree since at least you won't have people walking over you and you may have more respect from others as long as you don't become irrationally paranoid since there's a difference between simply being a bit paranoid and overly cautions and being so paranoid that the sight of someone smiling can set you off which is a whole different problem.