[I_WMD]

Shared MORE ,,,,,,,, <<<<<<, But I really do share . REALLY .

Just a warning : This could get long .

This cancer thing That Donna has been going through . [ ref : ] Grief and loss forum >>> cancer and family history .

Along with that,,, Donna and I are BFF's.. We have been everything as we grew up together. [ June 15 this year will be 28 years together ] And I in my learning more in the trades and the better dollar type of home-remodel work ..... It has still mostly took two incomes to TCOB and have the fun we have enjoyed ,,,... <<< Nothing extravagant ,,.. But we have been able to pick up stakes and make moves as a team and still keep all intact.i.e. Pets first ... and Us second .

Well we have been back here in North Carolina { she grew up here } >>> like 9 years . We left alot behind when we came back ... Florida was low wages and hot a-s weather .. But we had been there for like 9 years .....,,, And her older peeps in the family were not getting younger << >> LOL << .

So through the past Years we were here for her mother ,,, and It seems now for her father and cousins and ,, yea ,, the cancer stuff.>>>> I want to be able to have a convo with Donna and ask her ,, " Will me being gone ,,, Leave state for a bit ,, bring more co-operation from your ( well to do ) Family and will that help you " ?

Ya see ,, I am a Yankee ,, and these peeps are old thinking southerners. I not one of them ... Plus I be Not a 8 hr. aday grind type . [ except when I was 2 weeks away from opening resteraunt and Donna got her Dx for cancer ]
The way I am ,, ya drop everything and ya work out the details later.
That was going to entail others ,, not only myself picking up finacially for Her and Her Pets . And what ever else I was not able to now attend to .

My wishes were to be there and be close . I kinda gave up myself I feel .. No regrets though.

Hardest thing to explain is ,, hey ,, Just because ya got breast cancer not mean ya get disability the next week or month or months .
So we got to go to Landlord Tenant eviction court today ....<<< That's what I call it << Actually Small claims court.
We felt we were asking for enough ,,, and to say Hey Can we help us out on this too ? [ meaning Family ]... Ya This was a timing thing ... Ya would think Disability would kick in at ooooooooooooo say 4 months ??? << Nope . Not yet ,,,, .

But after judgement rendered and as we all were in Parking Lot and Then communicating ,,, I was ,, BTW ? Ya know I needed this eviction thing like 3 months ago ... If You wanna get assistance with bills while you are most probabley going to get some ,,for the time ,,relief ,,, Ya best show a major need ...

Well Landlady peep was all Ok I get ya a lease and I have my fix-it guy come and look over the things you want done >>> Like we been here 8 yrs. 4 landlords ..... and Hey ,, Unless they own for 5 years they not gotta do much as far as cosmetics go ,,,,,, Well .. ,, Yea I can put paint on walls .... But is that going to be compensated .?

Answer always Well You should have had last land lord do that .

HUH? grrrrrrrrrrrrr LOL.

And the fact this is like a percieved Wild Wild West area << High Crime <<. eeeeerrrrrrrrrmmmmmmmm .. I not worry that ,, I have 3 dogs that are combined weight of aaaaaaaaaaaaaa ??? >>> 425 lbs. And 2 attack cats >>> hehe.

Actually I have to end this here for lack of >> train of thouight ,,,,, Donnas' Dad called while I was typing this post ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and >>>>>>>>>>>>>. I think he knows more than we wanted him to know ...

I'll Post a follow up .>>> He <<<< Didn't even know we depleted our I RA s' and roth accounts With this surviving thing ....

Funny though ...,,, He will speak to me for an Hour And it is like old home week of a couple of KKK brothers .

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(((((wmd))))) Thanks so much for sharing, I wish I could do more than send a hug. Ya both are in my thoughts and prayers!

[selfy]

love you corky. i wish i could help out with the shizm with the lease and so on. can i help painting or summat? mebbe i can hide on a plane nd come over
but yeah. ty corky for that, its nice to hear how u doing. even if u doing crap. cuz when u doing crap at least i can say aww u doing crap have a hug. but i cant do that when i dont know eh can i. soooo every time u need to vent i want u tooo rant at meeeeeee
or rant to a posttttttt
or somethingggggggggg
pleaseeeeeeeee

*hugs*
u cool friend
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If money would help then ask Doc John to do a drive for you ! I will be the first one to donate love you far too much to see you so stressed hun.

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FABULOUS Idea Tish!!! I know that was not the reason for the thread, but I really wish you would!!!

[I_WMD]

We not even like asking family for help ,,,, We good if we can get them to buy dog food and even then ,,, they be like ,,, you need to find homes for them dogs .... WTF they are Donnas' kids .... Funny how with some that have had children they dismiss pets as expendable .

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WMD, I do not understand that way of thinking at all. While I am aware that there is a difference between my pets and my children, my pets still snuggle and give so much love. There are so many studies out there that tell us that our pets help us heal.

I can't understand her family having the ability to help and not doing so, even without asking!

[I_WMD]

AAAAA ,, These family peeps are the kind that go to yard sales >>>. And brag about how little they paid for some item and how much they could sell it for .

Then go to Flea Markets ,, spend the time loading ,, unloading ,, Re-packing , renting the tables at Flea Market ,,,,,, Then return home and still have a basement full of stuff in boxes to the point they really don't even know what they have .......Amazes me !!!! " Ya mean ya paid 1 dollar for that " ,,,,, And it is worth 10. 00 $ ,,,, mmmmmmmmmm???? And someone offered you 5.00 $ 's ? = and you wouldn,t take it ????? 400% profit ???

Gee ,, Your retired ,, reckon your time is worth >>>>>> 0 <<<<<.?