Remembrances

rcabbott · Sep 09, 2005, 04:03 PM

This month marks the third anniversary of my mom's death. She died September 11th, 2002 of breast cancer at the age of 55. I really miss her.

This month also marks the one year anniversary of not talking to my father. Although he has not been clinically diagnosed, I believe he suffers from Narcissitic Personality Disorder. I finally broke off the relationship when I couldn't handle helping anymore. He would not seek help for his problems; I gave him more money then I could afford, and yet it wasn't enough for him. He lied, he blamed everyone else for his problems. Some asked if my mom's death triggered his behavior? Her lose was a lose of checks on his behavior. He had a history of bad acts long my her death but I think he got into less trouble because of her expectations and his fear of "getting in trouble." He lost his mother at an early age so I've thought that my mom was a surrogate mother to him in many ways.

My birthday is on 9/14; my mom was buried on the 13th. Septemeber is not my favoraite month.

It's been tough, but I've learned alot myself by look honestly (I hope) at my past and the good and bad influences of my parents.

Sep 09, 2005, 05:05 PM

i'm sending you support and prayers. it is very hard to endure the anniversaries of the death of someone we loved. it sounds like you did what was best for you, concerning your father. sometimes it is best to distance oneself from toxic personalities. xoxo pat

Lexicon78 · Sep 09, 2005, 05:17 PM

I am so sorry for your losses...I lost my mother last year to adrenal cancer so I can guess how you are feeling. I'm so sorry about what you are going through with your father, also.

You are in my prayers.