[LostandLonleySoul]

My Granny passed about a month ago. The way she went shouldn't have happened. Here is what was going on (keep in mind that she was 92 and she needed constant care).

My dad and my stepmom both left the house and left Granny Martha there alone. She has this thing where she thinks that she will run out of undies so she has someone wash them for her in the sink. Since she was left alone she took it upon herself to wash them by herself (she was mostly wheelchair bound). She hasn't been very steady on her feet for some time. She fell in the bathroom and ended up breaking her pelvis. She was in the hospital for 4 days then my stepmom made the desision to have her home. She was home for 10 day before she passed. My dad and stepmom took care of her and regulated the morphine and another high pain killer. My father was never in there when the Dr. or nurse came to see her. After she passed my stepmom didn't do a wake or anything. Just had her cremated. My granny also gave me a painting and has been telling me to take it for quite some time now and I kept acedentally on purpose forgetting it. When I went to see her before she passed she told me to take it and I was going to but my stepmom told me to forget about it until after she passed. I was talking to my stepmom on the phone and she told me that the painting was to go to her. It was in the will and that was that. My granny was very important to me and now I will get nothing that she gave me.

[Lexicon78]

I'm sorry that you are in this mess. I know how heartbreaking it can be when you are promised one thing and somebody else takes it. Legalities really do suck.

[JustBen]

Is this grandmother your Stepmom's Mom? I only ask because it seems like she's making all the decisions here. Can you talk to your Dad about this? She probably didn't want you to take the painting out of the house before your grandma died because she knew that the house and its contents would be left to her in the will.

[dottie]

Such horrible behaviour. Unforgiveable, really! I've been there...it hurts!!

I'm so sorry.

Hold on tight to the love she had for you.

Peace,

Petunia

[eskielover]

Of course you have the right to be mad, only remember one thing.....don't dwell on the anger. I saw that happen to my grandmother. When her father died, my grandmother's brother & his wife ended up taking everything & giving my grandmother nothing. That happened way before I was born & I am now 52. I always saw her as a miserable, angry person.....to the time when altzhiemers took over her mind. Then she became the angry altzhiemers person who struck out at everything & everyone around her.

Please don't let your anger (which you are entitled to feel) take over your thoughts......let it go....there is nothing you can do about it now.....& hopefully you may end up with sooner or later anyway.

Debbie

[hillbunnyb]

I wish you didn't have to go up against such ickky stuff with your stepmom. My only suggstion is to take a picture of the painting. You can have it to hold in your own hands regardless of who has the original..
Granny's love will be with you always, anyway.

[LostandLonleySoul]

I am sorry I found out some more things. I know that I should have fixed this post right away but I have been really busy.

Now I know that my Granny wasn't alone. There was someone there. Also that she had promised that she wouldn't wash out her undies and broke that promise. I might have misled something in my statement that my stepmom regulated her meds. She was just on the morphine til the last day and there was a precise record of the meds that was distributed. Also some might think that when I said that my stepmom took her out of the hospital that I ment that it was something that my granny sisn't want, but that is what she wanted. The painting was in the will and I just have to deal with that. I know that I have some of the best things anyone can ask for, the memories of growing up with her. I wouldn't take any of those away. I really didn't give any details when I said that she was cremated. She didn't want anything else. I know that my stepmom is taking care of everything in the order that my grandmother wanted.

Sorry about the confusion of things.