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Old Aug 27, 2011, 06:17 AM
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My mum died yesterday at lunchtime.
I kissed her goodbye.
Then I spend all my time worrying that ppl will think
Im a robot because I dont cry when with other ppl.
Not at the funeral (Its next Thursday) . A tiny bit when I see others
cry but its for them I feel sad and it brings 1 or 2 tears.
Im scared they think Im not human and I have no heart.

Has anyone else experienced this.
I didnt cry at my sons funeral last year
but I cried when I was driving alone.
He died in his car. Im on Lexapro but it was
the same when I was med-less.
warm hugs to everyone especially if they've lost
their loved ones.....jjulia
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Old Aug 28, 2011, 07:20 AM
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hon don't worry what others think of you. it is how you grieve. I cried like a baby at my brothers funeral but hardly cried at all at my dad's. strange to me but that is just how it was. people don't see what we do when we are alone. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old Sep 04, 2011, 08:52 AM
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((((Julia)))))
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Old Sep 04, 2011, 01:09 PM
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Yes, we all have our own "style" and needs when it comes to grieving.

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Old Sep 05, 2011, 12:00 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss Julia. Losing a parent is hard. But I think we all grieve in our own way and in our own time. You might not cry today, but you might a week or a month or a year from now. You might never cry. That doesn't make you a robot. It just means your grief is on your terms and on your schedule. Nothing more.

Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
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