[Lucky_13]

today i have to go to my best friends funeral she died from suicide....her mom asked me to write a euolgy so i did and i have to read it infront of people i dont know in a little over two hours.....i found her and i dont want to go to her funeral but i do im so nervous....but i will go and pay my respects like i know she would have done for me

i am deeply sorry......

Oh Lucky,

My heart breaks for you.

My sympathies to you.

[bebop]

(((lucky)))) you can do this hon. I did it for my granddaughters funeral. you are pretty strong even though you don't realize it just yet hang in there hon.

My thoughts are with you on this hard day. its never easy buying someone so close to you.

Sounds like your friends mum respects you alot, to ask to to write something for the service, that must mean alot to you. i remember, at my mums funeral i wrote a poem a few days before the funeral and i wanted it read out at the funeral...but when it came to the day i couldnt do it, so my sister read it out for me. its a great way to show your respect by writing something like that for someone who means alot to you, in life and afterwards.

be sure to let me know how it goes, and if at anytime today you need to vent your emotions, pm me ok. im here for you, as is everyone here at PC.

take care lucky

i am so sorry you're going through such pain.........xoxox pat

[gurlbballgurl]

(((lucky)))) I know you can do it and if you need anything you can PM me any time

[Sabrina]

I am truly sorry for your loss!

[Fuzzybear]

I am so sorry for your loss

[Lucky_13]

thank you all for replying it helped alot thank you

[Sarah116]

Awwww I feel so sad for you! that is good though you are going. Even know it must me real hard.

[SwallowedByConfusion]

lucky honey as long as you keep the memories alive you can be near your friends wherever they go. be strong and cherish all the memories. you know i'm always here for you so if you wanna talk just get a hold of me.

[desirae]

So sorry Lucky, it's hard....but yes, it's the right thing to do, to go pay respects. Your a strong youngster.

[pawpwr1]

I was in basic training when my best friend was killed in a car crash at 18 years of age. They don't let you leave for it unless it is a family member. It has been two years since he was killed, and it was not his fault which is a tough thing to swallow. I am told that you have to look at what that person wants. A friend of mine lost his mom to cancer when he was only 17. There was a poem read stating the words, "Do not cry for me for I am dancing in the clouds with God. Yes, I died during xmas, but do not miss me for I am singing with God's chior, the Holy Chior." Those words have always stuck with me. At only 21 years of age, i have had to attend many funerals already, and I must say that the traggic ones are the worst. My friend Mike did not see what was coming. My best advice is a series of tools that have helped me. First is time. You will know how mcuh you need. Second, is a memorial for your loved one. Mike was cremated which I have had hard tim dealing with because his family has him placed in his room and I do not feel right asking for permission to see him. But maybe plant a garden in respect to the loss. We ran in a marathon for my friend Mike. Three is talk about the loss a lot. I found that people want to help, but they don't know how to really start. Many people have given me some great ideas, and motivation that would not have been possible without me saying something about Mike. Four is to take care of yourself. Make sure that thigns are ok with you. Make sure that you are working and yet still treating yourself at the local DQ. 5 is to take car eof others. When Mike died, they gave little attention to Mike's only younger brother Scotty who just graduated high school this May. It took a year for Scott to be recognized and to be respected like Mike was.