anyone else out there suffering from a loss from sui?

I am a mother a 12 year old boy...he is my world. His father committed sui almost 10 yrs ago. He has a sister from his father that I have tried to be in contact with her mother. Her mother has refused her and my son for years to have a relationship as brother and sister. I recently received a message from her stating that she would now like to let the kids have a relationship. I also found out that my sons sister knows how their father passed away and frankly it scares me. My son does not know how his father passed and I intend on letting him grow up not knowing. I also am afraid that as their relationship grows(if aloud) she will tell him. So my question is, do I allow my son to spend time with his sister and take the chance of finding out the truth way too young or what????? Praying that someone out there understands...please no judging.

Wow! that is a tough decision. How old is the sister? Is she old enough to understand keeping a secret as big as this? And that it could be damaging to her brother if she tells. If you plan on never telling him this is always going to be an issue because when they get older they may decide to get together anyway. I understand your fear, but not a clear answer.
Gayle

My sister committed suicide. That was 16 years ago and my brother still thinks it was an accidental OD. He was only 10 and our mom didn't think he should know. It's a hard decision to make and as a parent you do what you think is best. I wish i didn't know and will never burden my brother with that knowledge. I wish you the best in this difficult decision.

why not be honest with your son? let him know yourself because some day it is going to come out. they handle the truth much better than one might think.

My sister also committed suicide she was 16 years old at the time. I think my family wasn't going to tell me, but they did, of which i am so glad now, i felt left out in the cold like there was something i should know. They told me first she took pills, but i found out how she really did it, she hung herself. I think you should tell your son, he may find out anyway and be angry no one told him the truth.