[thunderbear]

My good friend died. He was my husbands life long friend. He and his brother came with my husband. When we first got together, I knew that it was a package deal. These three were inseprable. They were like brothers. He was 32. Someone found him, dead, on the side of the road a couple hours ago not far from our house. Im having trouble coming to terms with the fact that he is not here anymore. And I dont know what he was doing there, or how he died. Im heartbroken. My husband, I think, is in shock. This is so very hard. My friend was a good person. He liked to drink. A lot. But he was a sweet soul. And its hard thinking that he wont be here anymore. I love him an his family like my own. Theyve been a part of my life for 12 years. I just cant believe he s gone!!!

[optimize990h]

I am sorry for the loss you and your husband are undergoing.

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved friend

[Perna]

I'm sorry for you and your husband's loss. I know you are a good friend and partner and will help your husband through this, supporting him as you have been all along.

[thunderbear]

Thanks guys.
Im having so much trouble with this. I am angry. Cause it has come out that he was beaten to death. The person who they suspect did it was his friend. I cant get over it. How much do you have to beat someone to cause death?!? My heart is breaking thinking about the siffering that my sweet friend may have gone thru. He did not deserve this!!

I had an appt with my pdoc today. I talked with him about it. And how I was just not grasping the fact that my good friend was dead and his death was violent. And that I felt more angry than sad right now. He said thats normal b/c Im in shock by it and the fact it happened so close to my house. He said that me feeling any emotion was a sign that I was getting better cause a year ago, I had no emotions.
My husband is very sad and in a state of disbelief. I feel so sorry for him. We were talking about our dear friend last night. And I was recalling the first time I had met him and how he scared me cause this big man just came up and said "You must be R's wife! You are a pretty little girl gimme a hug!" I was laughing about it last night cause as I came to know him, I found that he was a hugger and just boisterus and jovial. And my husband had tears running down his face and said "The first time I met him he was wearing a diaper." :'( His heart is broken.

[Grey Matter]

God, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your husband. I can't even imagine getting news like this and what the cause of death was.

[zbmom]

I am so so sorry for your loss, it sounds horrible and heartbreaking. I'm glad you have a supportive pdoc.

[Sabrina]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[Gus1234U]

may your grief be swift and sweet memories be long~

I hope you and your husband help one another get through this. The circumstances sound terrible, I can understand your difficulty

[thunderbear]

Thanks so much.
Its still hard to believe. His mom had him cremated before the service & its hard for us to feel closure b/c we didnt get to see him. I understand though that she had to. I just hope they find out what exactly happened. There are so many rumors going around in our small town. My friend was one of the good ole boys around here and everyone knew and loved him so you can imagine how the people are speculating.