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Old Oct 02, 2013, 03:11 AM
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My dog, who was my best friend, died just over 2 weeks ago. So many things remind me of her all the time.

The nightmares of her dying seem to have subsided now. I still often cry myself to sleep. And I wake up feeling for her next to me. And then I remember that it wasn't just a nightmare. She's really gone. And I want her back so badly.

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Old Oct 02, 2013, 03:25 AM
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I am so very sorry. This must be extremely painful for you. Please give yourself time to grieve and be very gentle with yourself during this difficult time. I will think of you.
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 07:15 AM
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I'm so sorry about this, I know how close we can get to our pups. My love is with you!
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 09:02 AM
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My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is to lose a furbaby. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process. You will one day remember the good days with a smile instead of a tear. Best wishes.
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 09:27 AM
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i'm so sorry to hear about your dog

i agree with sabrina, please give yourself time and don't rush the grieving process
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 11:55 AM
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My cats are aging with me...lately, I find myself thinking how much I EXPECT them to be here...to always be here.
Long ago, I had a cat for nearly 20yrs---one day she left the house, and died somewhere out of doors. I had her in my dorm room, I have a photo of my daughter, at least 16yrs later, holding her...she travelled with me a lot when young. Sometimes she would even feature in a dream as if an independent (eg: watching over a small shop as the owner)...no one could see my reaction when she was gone...
I still can't quiet let go somewhere.
Then I think of my late brother and a cat story...oh my.
Do Grieve!!!!!!!! Openly. It will help you so in the long run...
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 07:57 PM
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My dog, who was my best friend, died just over 2 weeks ago. So many things remind me of her all the time.

The nightmares of her dying seem to have subsided now. I still often cry myself to sleep. And I wake up feeling for her next to me. And then I remember that it wasn't just a nightmare. She's really gone. And I want her back so badly.

I feel for you. My dog died this past March. It still hurts. I still miss her. Remember all the good times you had together.
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 08:22 PM
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So sorry for your pain Cheshire
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Old Oct 02, 2013, 09:10 PM
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gentle blessings for you and your sweet dog
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Old Oct 03, 2013, 12:53 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm thinking there are a lot of good memories there.
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Old Oct 05, 2013, 02:37 AM
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Thank you for all your thoughtful and kind comments Sabrina, atomicc, gayleggg, shattered sanity, winter4me, Yobeth, Citrine, JadeAmethyst, and George H.

My dog was a very sweet little princess who always strived to be "good." I think the most difficult part of her death was that she was jumping around and had regained her appetite hours before she died. She always had a sensitive stomach and did not tolerate most medicines her vet prescribed. We were trying to get her strong again before we tried another heart medicine. Her little heart, so full of love, suddenly gave out. I rushed her to the vet, but she was gone before I could get her there. She just seemed too young to die.

I'm glad she didn't seem to suffer for a long time. And I am also glad she died with me near her rather than in a veterinary hospital emergency room, surrounded by strangers.

It's been almost 3 weeks and I'm still sobbing and crying myself to sleep.

I can't sleep now because I miss her so much. I have to keep wiping the tears off my face as I type.
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Old Oct 30, 2013, 10:14 PM
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Sadly I had to have my 14 year old Yorkie put down this past Saturday so I know the pain your going through. He had mouth cancer for the past 5 months or so and after 3 expensive surgeries and my broken heart I had to make the decision to do it. It didn't seem to get any better and he was having a hard time eating and began loosing a lot of weight. For me it is honestly better if I put up a mental wall and try and not think about him until I can accept and deal with it easier, time is a healer and I have become a master at blocking things out. It's very hard to for someone you loved dearly but I realize its something I must do, I hope and pray you find peace through it all and will be able to fall back on the love and good times you had and cherish.

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My dog, who was my best friend, died just over 2 weeks ago. So many things remind me of her all the time.

The nightmares of her dying seem to have subsided now. I still often cry myself to sleep. And I wake up feeling for her next to me. And then I remember that it wasn't just a nightmare. She's really gone. And I want her back so badly.

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