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Jan 01, 2014 at 08:00 PM
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It has been a bit over a year since my best friend of 41 years died suddenly from a heart attack. We were together for all of the major milestones of each others lives, I defined myself by her. We had our marriages together, we had our children together...we were one of the same. We worked at the same place always exchanging our feelings etc. We took trips together, we always understood each other. I can't move past this...I can't mention her name at work or at home or anywhere. I will cry if I even think of her, no matter where I am. I am grieving so much. I don't want her to be gone. I can't make myself remember our times together with fondness, just sadness that we can not have any more time to be friends. Will this grief ever end? I don't want to not talk about her, but I cannot. I can't visit her grave, I feel she is not there, that she is not anywhere. I am trying to move on, is this normal?
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Jan 01, 2014 at 08:12 PM
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My heart is with you. Its so hard to lose your best friend. Anyone close to you for that matter.
Yes its normal. Do something for her if you can . plant a tree , let balloons go. Collect for a heart group in her name. Shes there, shes in heaven watching over you. Keep on crying that is normal. Best friends are hard to come by. When you lose them...its hard. My prayers are with you.... __________________ AKA the old muffy.....so everyone knows. 
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Jan 04, 2014 at 11:32 AM
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That is really hard, I couldn't imagine what you are feeling. Grief ducks as well as losing loved ones. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
__________________ Diagnosed with: Major Depression, Bipolar with Borderline traits, Grief/Anxiety, depersonalizations disorder, disassociating identity disorder, PTSD Lost dear older bro November 1987 to March 2005 My love for him will never stop |
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Jan 04, 2014 at 11:47 AM
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 ((((((((FULLNAVIA))))))))Yes, it's normal. I wish I could carry some of that weight for you, I know grief can be such a heavy load to bear. I know grief & heartbreak feel like they hurt so much it should kill you. But it doesn't. We have to keep going, such a hard thing. A year is not a long time compared to the lifetime of memories with this treasured friend. Please allow that you need a longer time to grieve and while it will never really go away, this pain, it will get a little easier to bear in time. I am so sorry for your loss. Please keep posting, we are a nice & compassionate bunch here. We really do care.
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Jan 05, 2014 at 11:10 AM
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when i experienced a great loss, i cried for 3 yrs. it never occurred to me to wonder if that was "normal" or when it would cease, i was wounded so deeply that i could only cry, even when i was not crying.
grieve while you are grieving. let it all out. at some point you will begin to scar over, and the pain will recede.  all my compassion~ Gus __________________ AWAKEN~! |
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