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Feb 10, 2014, 03:51 AM
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My friend committed suicide almost three years ago, when I was a sophomore in college. For about two and a half years I could not stop thinking about it. I felt so guilty doing normal college things, because she died before she had a chance to do many of them. When I graduated, things got a little better because I didn't have so many reminders of her all the time. But now that it is almost the anniversary of her death, things are starting up again.
I feel like it's not going to go away. I have thought about it less since graduating but I still feel the same ways about it, and it is so hard to see the years ahead of me and know that this isn't going to go away. What happened is real and she isn't coming back. It's never going to be over.
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Issues/Diagnoses: Dysthymia, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Dissociative Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (DDNOS), bulimia, self-injury Medication: Prozac, ativan "Don't believe everything you think!" |
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#2
Feb 10, 2014, 09:53 AM
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Normally, grief has it's stages. Once you get through the stages life gets easier. It doesn't mean you don't still miss the person.
You might want to try grief counseling to help you get through this. 
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Feb 10, 2014, 10:31 AM
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I would suggest counseling because you seem to be stuck in the sadness phase.
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Feb 13, 2014, 02:54 PM
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every one grieves differently... many people grieve for 3 years, it's not an illness... but it does help if you can learn how to lessen the impact it has on your life. i believe that acceptance helps with the suffering. it is a skill gained little by little, often with great effort... or one day you will just find you have come to the end of active grieving and acceptance sort of moves in with you....
be kind to yourself, and support your own process... it's not anyone elses~ best wishes~ Gus 
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#5
Feb 16, 2014, 07:04 PM
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It never really goes away. I lost my brother it will be nine years this year, March is the hardest month for me by far. As it's the month he died, get counseling if you not already are. It really helps.
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Feb 17, 2014, 05:31 PM
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We always think about those who have left us. Find a way to honor your friend's memory in a way that she would be proud of
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Feb 17, 2014, 05:32 PM
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We always think about the people we lost because they are a part of us. Maybe find a way to honor your friend in a way she would be proud of. Perhaps this can help you continue to heal
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Feb 22, 2014, 02:44 AM
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Pain doesn't go away, not when you lose someone close to you. I have lost a few people in my life and I often think about and miss them all. You have to remember that your friend wouldn't want you to be sad. Experience life for both of you, honor her memory, but don't lost yourself in the pain. It may always hurt but one day you won't mind the hurt as much.
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