[Alishia88]

I am looking for someone who also lost a parent when they were young, about 20-27, I´d, think and would like to talk/exchange about it via Email. Just share some experience with me.

I lost my father when I was 21 to cancer. I am now 26, so some time has passed but of course, it still has its effects on me.

I think it´s different losing a parent when you are not really fully grown-up yourself. In my case, at 21 I was "practically" an adult, however, emotionally I wasn´t and also I still lived at home, I was still studying.

I guess it´s different losing a parent as a child, as a teen, as an adult or when you´re really on your way to being an adult. And that is what I´d like to talk about among other things.

Losing my father at that age to me meant losing a sense of security, of direction, safety, guidance and it also meant gaining freedom I wouldn´t have had otherwise.

So if anyone also lost a parent not really being fully grown-up themselves, I´d be happy to talk with them about it

Just send me an Email via the site.

[CANDC]

Alishia88, I am sorry you are hurting from your loss of your father. A friend's daughter lost her father when she was 5. It was hard for her. In many ways she can't even remember him. It seems like there is no good age. Another friend has a father in a nursing home that is just lost without his house. Don't think there is ever a good time to lose a father, but losing one young means there are many things you never get to say or share with your father. It must be difficult.
If you want to PM me, that would be fine.

[Bubblez88]

Hi Alisha. My name's Matthew.

Well I just found this site today and was searching around for recent issues with my therapist and I stumbled upon your post. It really resonated with me.

My mother passed away quite suddenly when I was 23, and I am 26 now. She was morbidly obese (and depressed IMO, undiagnosed), and my father and I watched her get progressively worse for about 5 years. She became more and more immobile spending time in her recliner in our living room. Eventually she slept in it and couldn't even get herself up without assistance.

I also, like you, lived at home at the time. I graduated college a year or so before and was about 5 months in to working my first career level job doing a 330PM- midnight shift in a lab. It was a very isolating experience with that time slot and even moreso when I lost my mother.

Guidance...direction...safety...she was the person I was closest to in this life, and I don't think anything could ever replace her.

Her death has pushed me in directions I would have never foresaw, for better and for worse. But I think the "for worse" part will eventually turn in to a "for better" part once I properly deal with it all.

There's a lot more to it...but just giving you a brief summary. I just signed up and I don't know how to write an email on this site lol, so shoot me a message if you'd like to chat a bit.

I have sort of an "online journal" on a forum elsewhere on the web detailing a lot of the events in my life that lead me to where I am now...but I've been neglecting it lately.

[elin95]

Hello Alisha, my name is Elin.

I am so sorry for your loss. I have a same experience. I lost my dad when I was 13.

If you want to talk I'm always here

Love Elin

[IhopFlop]

My Mom died a year ago, I was 25. It was horrible, and on so many levels I changed. My spiritual, life views, etc. I still haven't gotten over it... Best of healing to you.