Lost all empathy

After I lost my husband I lost all empathy towards people. I actually get angry and resentful. Oh, I lost my puppy, or kitty, my grandparents who lived old full lives died. Oh I knew he had cancer or some health problems so I had the chance to say goodbye! Oh, my boyfriend is mean to me.. - Seems like most of everyone's problems, they can fix them, just change your life. I don't know if people just like the attention, love being the victims, or just never really experienced real pain or hurt, so every little thing is such a huge deal to them. I had no choice, no chance to say goodbye, no questions answered. Nothing. So now having to deal with people and them saying they understand how I feel or what I am going through. NO you don't. Or they try to relate and say, well I am going through a divorce so I know what you are going through. YOU have a choice to change your crappy life! That was YOUR choice, your actions. You can't even compare, it is a complete insult.

An author whose work I appreciate, Parker J. Palmer, has observed that some hurts are so profound no words can do other than add to the despair. All one can do is to stand at the perimeter of the hurting person's being and offer silent support...

I am sorry you lost your husband. Nobody really understands exactly what you are going through. I wanted to point out something though. Whether a person lost a cat, dog, grandparent, old person parent, sibling they are all suffering. All of these losses have had a profound effect on them. They were loved by them. They brought meaning and purpose to their lives. You really are not so different from any of them. I was in a grief group with people who lost their children to murder, husbands, parents and we all found out that we were all in emotional pain and were all grieving. No two people grieve the same though.

I am sure you will again feel empathy for others again. I am guessing right now it is hard to focus on other people when you are hurting so bad.

Again I am sorry for what you are going through.