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Jul 09, 2007, 09:40 PM
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I became very fond of an older gentleman who lives here. He always had a smile and he loved to tease one and all. He always very loudly asked me if I would bring him back a beer. I would reply, "No!", just as loudly. Sometimes I'd tell him I'd bring him back water or root beer.
He was always outside when I'd leave and he wasn't there today. I thought he might be with his daughter. He died this morning of a heart attack. His name was Ernie and I will miss him so very much.  I know I live in an apt. bldg. for the disabled and elderly, and that people pass on, but it seems like every older person I become attached to dies... Jan 
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I still dream and I still hope, therefore I can take what comes today. Jan is in Lothlorien reading 'neath a mallorn tree. My avatar and signature were created for my use only and may not be copied or used by anyone else. |
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Jul 09, 2007, 09:49 PM
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Im sorry that you have lost your friend January. It doesnt matter what age people are its never easy.
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Jul 09, 2007, 09:50 PM
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(((((( Jan )))))))
I'm so sorry...it's so difficult to go through the pain of loss. my prayers are with you...  you~E
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Jul 09, 2007, 10:28 PM
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I'm sorry ((((((((January)))))))))))
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Jul 09, 2007, 10:40 PM
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(((((((Jan)))))))) I know you were as much a gift to your friend as he was to you. It takes a special person to be able to relate to older folks.
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Jul 09, 2007, 11:02 PM
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((((((((((((( Friends )))))))))))))
Thank you so very much for replying. It really, really helps. Momma Co died in December. My friend George died in March and now Ernie. My friend and neighbor, Cher, heard it first and came to tell me in person. She was so pale I thought she was going to pass out and fall out of her wheelchair. Again, thank you each so very much. Hugs, Jan
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I still dream and I still hope, therefore I can take what comes today. Jan is in Lothlorien reading 'neath a mallorn tree. My avatar and signature were created for my use only and may not be copied or used by anyone else. |
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Jul 09, 2007, 11:25 PM
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oh January!!!! i'm sorry!!! (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))
i know EXACTLY how you feel. my next door neighbor is this little tiny old guy named Norm! i moved in about six years ago and he's given me the history of the neighborhood and my house, etc. he'd putter in the backyard and i'd walk over and talk to him. he'd scold me about my yard looking bad! over the years his mind has gone more and more. he can't remember words like son or his son's name, etc. i noticed today his son was moving Norm's recliner out and into a truck. i was too afraid to stop and ask!!!!! i don't want Norm to have passed....i'm living in denial that maybe he's gone to live with his son. i like that version of reality!!!! older folks are such neat people!! they don't mind telling you what they think!! it's great! very refreshing! Ernie sounds like he was an awesome guy! take care of yourself as you grieve the loss of your friend!!! i'll be thinking of you!!
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Jul 09, 2007, 11:35 PM
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((( January )))
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Jul 10, 2007, 03:11 AM
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(((((((hugs)))))
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Jul 10, 2007, 06:39 AM
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((((JAN)))) Yes, it's tougher when you live surrounded like that... my mom (87) says that the result of not dying... outliving everyone else.
I'm sorry for your loss. You were good for him sounds like  It doesn't take much to befriend an older person sometimes, and bring light to their days. I'm sure he appreciated your interaction.
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Jul 10, 2007, 10:47 AM
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*hugs January tight*
I'm truly sorry... The loss of any friend, no matter what the age, is always difficult. |
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#12
Jul 10, 2007, 11:06 AM
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(((Jan))) oh hon I am so sorry. I know how much that hurts. it is a shame to lose good people like that in our lives.
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Jul 10, 2007, 01:19 PM
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<font color="blue"> </font> Dear Eva,
I'm new here, but I was very moved by your posts and I praying for you today. I can send you my e-mail. If you need to talk, cry or just have someone "with" you when you are alone, I am here for you. Take good care of you. |
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Jul 10, 2007, 05:04 PM
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January,
Im ever so sorry to hear your news. Its a very sad day
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Jul 10, 2007, 06:06 PM
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i'm so very sorry jan.........
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Jul 10, 2007, 11:16 PM
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((((((((( Dear Hearts ))))))))))
Thank you so very, very much. I saw another man in what I thought was Ernie's power wheelchair tonight. I honestly thought I was going to throw up. Thank you for being with me. Thank you for understanding. Thank you for caring. Love and hugs, Jan
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I still dream and I still hope, therefore I can take what comes today. Jan is in Lothlorien reading 'neath a mallorn tree. My avatar and signature were created for my use only and may not be copied or used by anyone else. |
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Jul 11, 2007, 05:30 PM
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((( January )))
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Jul 11, 2007, 06:26 PM
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I'm sorry Jan
And it's not silly at all!My favorite AA friend is Charlie and he is 74 and dying of emphyzema. Every week I go down the stairs on Saturday morning and pray that he is there - I can't imagine not having him in my life. Big soft hugs Tranquility
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Jul 11, 2007, 06:37 PM
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((((((((((((((((( Jan )))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry for you loss hon It's always hard to loose a connection....but think of it this way, you not only had a connection on earth with him, you now have another connection in heaven with him  xoxox Jean |
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Jul 11, 2007, 06:46 PM
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((Jan)), I am very sorry for your loss...
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Jul 11, 2007, 07:22 PM
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(((JANUARY))). I am sorry for your loss of your friend. take care of youself. Soidhonia
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Jul 14, 2007, 11:54 AM
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(((((((((( Dear Hearts )))))))))))
This could possibly be a trigger, thus the trigger icon. To my absolute shock, Ernie wanted no funeral and no gathering. His body was donated to a medical research facilty per his request. I know his donation is a noble thing to help mankind. I do understand that, but my inner self is horrified. Goodbye Ernie, my dear friend who always made me laugh. You made my life in this apartment complex much more bearable. I miss you. Hugs, Jan
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I still dream and I still hope, therefore I can take what comes today. Jan is in Lothlorien reading 'neath a mallorn tree. My avatar and signature were created for my use only and may not be copied or used by anyone else. |
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#23
Jul 14, 2007, 11:56 AM
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(((((((January))))))))))
so sorry for you loss |
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