[Kibou]

6 months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. He was preparing to move to a faraway town, and explained that he didn't feel like to engage into a long-distance relationship - all the long-distance relationships he has experienced were disastrous and painful for him. He didn't want to break up without my agreement, but I still let him go - having myself a bit of experience with long-distance relationships, I knew it's hard for me as well to handle with such things.

So.. It's been six months already. But the problem is, I think I'm still stuck in denial >_<" By which I mean, a have a lot difficulties realizing, figuring out what happened. Most of time I can still hear his voice, feel his presence near to me, and sometimes, I can almost see his face and his shape. I know that these are just delusions, but it's hard to not hold onto them. I know I should let them go to be able to grieve him and our relationship, but it's like if there was an invisible force that prevented me to do so. Not sure if I'm expressing myself well haha.

I tried different to do different things that are meant to jolt myself out of my denial - like listening to special songs, visiting special places, writing down on paper what happened, but these rituals seem to work only in the short them. Thanks to them I can totally get rid of my denial and be fully aware of reality, but for a few days only. It was like if, a few days later, I would "forget" about everything and fall into denial again.

Does anyone have any tips to kick out denial forever ? :/

[Skeezyks]

Hello Kibou: I'm not really someone who can offer tips with regard to this sort of thing. But I noticed no one had replied to your post. So I thought I would. Here are links to 2 articles from PsychCentral's archives on the topic of how to get over a breakup. Perhaps they can be of some help:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...ver-a-breakup/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/surviving-your-breakup/

My best wishes to you...

[Kibou]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello Kibou: I'm not really someone who can offer tips with regard to this sort of thing. But I noticed no one had replied to your post. So I thought I would. Here are links to 2 articles from PsychCentral's archives on the topic of how to get over a breakup. Perhaps they can be of some help:

My best wishes to you...

Aww thank you very much for your help, I'll check this out <3