[Trace14]

So what do you do when grief will not let go? That you are still deep in that process almost 4 years later. How do some people just let it go, just another day, a couple of weeks after the funeral? Why can't I do that?

My therapist once told me that she had seen people who are able to get to a place of acceptance fairly quickly, while others take a long, long time. That grief and bereavement, especially when mixed with trauma, requires a heroic amount of patience when allowing the process of acceptance to work.

Personally, I almost take offense when someone tells me to "just accept it," or "just let it go". I don't like the implication that it's as simple as making a choice not be bothered by our issues. It takes a long time for acceptance to happen, in my experience.

Keeping you in my thoughts, Trace. Every day.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

My therapist once told me that she had seen people who are able to get to a place of acceptance fairly quickly, while others take a long, long time. That grief and bereavement, especially when mixed with trauma, requires a heroic amount of patience when allowing the process of acceptance to work.

Personally, I almost take offense when someone tells me to "just accept it," or "just let it go". I don't like the implication that it's as simple as making a choice not be bothered by our issues. It takes a long time for acceptance to happen, in my experience.

Keeping you in my thoughts, Trace. Every day.

Ahh thanks. I know that people have to grieve in their own way and own time, but 4 years seems to be longer than it should be.

[East17]

I think it takes as long as it takes. Complicated grief just takes a bit longer to work through. There are no rules or limits when it comes to grieving.
Be gentle with yourself.

Kind thoughts
E.

[Clairvoyeur]

I don't see any end to grieving. Those who live a happy life, without loss will not understand until tragedy strikes them.