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spondiferous · Oct 29, 2017 at 10:55 PM

So in the last 3-4 days I have learned that my mom has dementia, and that my grandfather is dying. More broadly, in the last three weeks I have also had to leave school because of disability-related things, and my mental and physical health have both taken a dive, and my wife's been on bed rest while I'm freaking out trying to manage everything and just flailing, really. I feel like this is all too much and I don't know what to do. I can't rely on my family for support because we're not close, we're all dysfunctional, and most of us have been at least semi-estranged for as long as I can remember. Most of the people in my life just can't believe most of what I tell them about my life because it's hard for them to imagine that one person can get hit with so many things at once. I feel like I could sleep for a month but I have insomnia and can't do that. Ugh I just want to quit everything. I'm so tired of adulting.

Trace14 · Oct 30, 2017 at 05:24 AM

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So in the last 3-4 days I have learned that my mom has dementia, and that my grandfather is dying. More broadly, in the last three weeks I have also had to leave school because of disability-related things, and my mental and physical health have both taken a dive, and my wife's been on bed rest while I'm freaking out trying to manage everything and just flailing, really. I feel like this is all too much and I don't know what to do. I can't rely on my family for support because we're not close, we're all dysfunctional, and most of us have been at least semi-estranged for as long as I can remember. Most of the people in my life just can't believe most of what I tell them about my life because it's hard for them to imagine that one person can get hit with so many things at once. I feel like I could sleep for a month but I have insomnia and can't do that. Ugh I just want to quit everything. I'm so tired of adulting.

That is a heavy burden to carry. Do you have a Therapist you could talk to? Called the Crisis line? School counselor? Just deal with one at a time, get some rest and eat a balance diet of good foods, drink plenty of liquids, like water. Do something relaxing or that you enjoy. There's people here that will support you.

spondiferous · Oct 30, 2017 at 02:31 PM

Thanks Trace. I have a good support system. It's just a lot right now. I have been taking the best care of myself that I can, though, which helps.

Oct 30, 2017 at 02:41 PM

I am sorry for what you're going through. I think that you need extra support right now.

Trace14 · Oct 30, 2017 at 04:29 PM

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Thanks Trace. I have a good support system. It's just a lot right now. I have been taking the best care of myself that I can, though, which helps.

That means a lot to have that support system, use them, okay? It is a lot to deal with. Address these issues in your own way and time, but take care of you first.

spondiferous · Oct 30, 2017 at 11:46 PM

I had a good conversation with my doctor today. She totally validated my need to keep a distance from my family. I know the rest will work itself out in time. But I have the best friends ever and for that I am grateful.

Trace14 · Oct 30, 2017 at 11:57 PM

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I had a good conversation with my doctor today. She totally validated my need to keep a distance from my family. I know the rest will work itself out in time. But I have the best friends ever and for that I am grateful.

Well good. It's always comforting to be validated in what you are thinking. That's great you have so many wonderful friends. You are very blessed

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spondiferous Dancer in the Dark Member Since Feb 2012 Location: somewhere, i think. Posts: 5,330 12 2,829 hugs given	Oct 30, 2017 at 02:31 PM #3 Thanks Trace. I have a good support system. It's just a lot right now. I have been taking the best care of myself that I can, though, which helps. __________________
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