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We're hoping to get back down to see her on Saturday, weather allowing. If the weather turns bad I'll never see her again
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Be gentle on yourself The weather is going to do what the weather is going to do. I'm sure your gram wouldn't want to think of you in harms way. I wanted to see mine on Friday but it was an icy mess and my kids sleep schedules radically changed over this last weekend of vacation. Back in November with a gallbladder infection diagnosis things got a bit heightened over everyone feeling like it was time to see her asap. Her being the fighter she is, battled off that infection and has made it through the holidays. If my last moment to see her was my last, I'll be at peace. And if there's more moments to come, I will cherish those.
It's tough to know the final stages are here and that it is a matter of time. Finding peace in the matter is what matters. |
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I don't really understand "finding peace in the matter is what matters", I'm not really following what that means.
We're definately going down to see her tomorrow, weather forecast sounds okay This thread got moved here as well and I don't understand why so soon when I wanted it to stay where it was for now, I did ask but never heard back And this post now has 3 paragraphs so am adding this one to make three go away edit: I'm now imagining grandma and grandad being together when the time comes and Ebony being there as well thinking this way hurts though Last edited by Anonymous32891; Jan 04, 2019 at 04:06 PM.. Reason: adding something, forgot to fill this box in, stupid ocd |
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I can appreciate your desire not to have the thread moved from a superstitious viewpoint. I don't know why it was decided to move your thread over. |
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My grandma's stable at the moment but she can't move apart from twitching around and she can't talk now, the staff there are having to move her manually every time they want to move her anywhere, they have to put her in a wheelchair and move her to a chair then have to move her around cause she can't move by herself, she's too weak to do anything now I'll never see her again They stole Ebony away and poor sweetpea Ebony only knew getting hurt by scumbags before rescue took her in then 4 years later I had to say goodbye to poor Ebony and the nazis stole her body away and made her alive again and are hurting her Last edited by atisketatasket; Jan 06, 2019 at 11:58 AM.. |
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Thinking of you and your grandma. (((((hugs))))).
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I remember getting news like that almost 2 years ago, but it doesn't feel like it. It feels more recent.
I knew it was the end coming for my mom, but I just didn't know how to deal with it. We were never close, so I'm not sure if this made it more painful or not. It was excruciating no matter what. The holidays were torture, more than usual. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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How are you and your Grandma doing Whispershadow?
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One of the family tried phoning me several times but I was out driving so couldn't pick up the call, so idk if there's news, I phoned back but couldn't get through, I'm really freaking out bad again now cause I fear something must of happened for that family member to try phone several times this morning, it won't be a social call "hi how are you" kinda thing I'm fearing the worst and I cannot get through to return the call - mobile signal here is a lump of dirt at the best of times and that's putting it politely
I was going to start a new thread but for some reason it won't accept me starting a new thread, just white screens when I click new thread so I'll offload into here instead, today's not been a good day at all, everything's crashing down around my ears again and there's nothing, nothing at all, that I can do about it The sooner I accept that I'm a scummy turd the better My heart really hurts now |
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Today is no joyful big holiday weekend for MLK like our culture is shoving at us. Nothing against the man, but this "big holiday weekend" was the last time I saw my mom alive, back in 2017. It doesn't "feel" like 2 years.
I feel so much anxiety today. I don't want to go to parades or listen to his speech for the 100th time it seems. It was also the last weekend I last "spoke" to my brother who still hasn't spoken to me since then. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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Whispershardow I moved your post that was here to here
as you requested. __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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idk if starting a new thread will work today, have not tried, idk if it's computer yesterday or some other reason why I could not start threads yesterday I finally managed to get hold of the family member who kept trying to phone me, there's been no changes to grandma's health, the phone call was about something my grandma had wanted to send up here to me and it was arrangements for it to come up here (large item) Of course, me being me, I fretted as soon as I had her trying to phone several times and I tried answering the call but as I said phone signal up here is complete crap so I couldn't get hold of her until last night after I logged off from here I wish I wasn't me Can I be someone else please? is that allowed? |
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believe me, you, you don't want my life. Not for nothing, I'm at peace about my own life, the entirety of it all and everything and it's not a miserable existance or anything it's just honestly...I subscribe to the 'careful what you wish for' mentality.
Glad that the phone call was innocent enough. Would have been more kinder of your relative to leave some type of message such as 'not an emergency but call' as opposed to leave you guessing and worrying and struggling to return that call. Geezuz... For me, today, no news is good news. I had a flash back to seeing my mom in her hospital room when I went to visit on Friday. My uncle's last message to the family after his own visit yesterday was amazement at how very weak she was and he hoped she'd be awake today. Also she didn't eat yesterday at least not lunch. We're all individually stranded so to speak in our own homes today because of a major winter storm. |
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Yeah I don't know why she didn't leave a message, or phone on the landline to leave a message ........ s healing |
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tough times call for reaching out to friends, family and others for support.
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