i thought we could have a memorial thread for anyone (human or pet) who really means a lot to us, even after their death

Anyone can add to this thread

How much you feel comfortable saying about the lost loved one in this thread is up to you, only post what you are comfortable posting cause this can be read publically

i hope its okay to have this as a thread, i cant remember anything in the rules about memorials

I'll start with my angel furbaby sweetpea Ebony cat

She was picked up by rescue in 2013, in a terrible condition, along with her babies (only two survived), i dont know exactly which month she was rescued, but i remember the vet didnt think she would live beyond 2 years after i took her on from the rescue, everyone had done all they could, she just wasnt meant to have a "normal" life

I was going through a heap of bad stuff in 2012 and 2013 i was still really struggling to heal from everything, 1st January 2014 Ebony came to live with me, then for the next 4 years and 2 months she had flare ups of her health problems, some of which i had no idea if i'd get back home from work to find her in a bad way, possibly not even alive, certaintly once she reached the 2 year mark cause the vet had basically said he didnt think she would live beyond 2 years

She was a fighter, her last 2 years every time she got sick, it would push her further and further down, it was the end of Febuary 2018 when I took her into the vet, her health had really nosedived, he booked her back in for tests for the 2nd March 2018, which is when it was confirmed that she had cancers in her lungs and tummy, and very likely her brain as well, she had several fits on her last night and could not walk in a straight line.

Ebony my sweetpea, you saved me at a time when nobody else cared, I still miss you to this day

Adoption date: 1st January 2014
Passed away: 2nd March 2018
Estimated age (rescue age - which could be wrong) : 7 years

Ebony's song:

Story behind how it's her song - I was into Lord of the Rings years ago, and during trying to recover, I re-watched bits of it, including playing the ending songs from Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit. This song, was the only one that Ebony visibly relaxed to. She didn't much like people singing - possibly due to whatever happened to her before rescue took her in, she would run for her very life when someone started singing, and find somewhere to hide. The song i posted, was the one and only exception

[CANDC]

Thanks willow for sharing your story. I am sorry for your loss. That must be rough to deal with.

[Travelinglady]

I'm sorry for Ebony's passing, willow.

Thanks for starting this thread.

[Fuzzybear]

I'm sorry for Ebony's passing ((((( Willow )))))

[nonightowl]

I've lost both humans and animals the last 5 or 6 years, too numerous to mention. As it is now I'd say I'm numb, as the grief process is hard enough without adding legal issues.

There's one grave I visit now & then, a friend who suddenly passed in 2016 and was more like a brother than my "real" one.

[am6985]

This is a fantastic idea. Since the beginning of 2020 I have lost my Uncle Lonnie, my parents dog Teddy, our cat Farrah, and just today our dog Jack. I am always thinking about them and miss them all terribly. It is nice knowing that they are always with me.

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[downandlonely]

I've lost several pets. The most recent was Tiger Lily. I adopted her as a kitten. Her health took a sudden downturn in 2018 (when she was only two) and I had to put her to sleep.

[Skeezyks]

Joey the Schnoodle... always in my heart.

[am6985]

Sadly have to add our cat Mogli to the memorial.

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[Rastana]

I just had to put down my Star dog the beginning of September. She was a 15 year old malti-poo full of life- hand stand-peeing, outrun every dog at the park kinda gal...until the last year her liver and cognitive functions took a steep decline. I think I waited a little too long to let her go. I was in a deep depression after, something I haven't experienced since my mom passed 20 years ago. I didn't anticipate the sadness. I'm starting to get my crap together...she will be forever missed.
I have a playlist of music I listen to when I want to remember her. My favorite song for her is 'Vagabond' by Caamp.
Peace and love to those who have lost their animal companions.

[CANDC]

sorry for your loss!

[Stronglady1]

My husband,Lost him in January to cancer.He was the rock in my life including my son's life.Was a great step dad in my son's life since his biological dad is not in his life..They were close and did things together.Me,was a great husband to me and always loved my.Never said anything about my pituritary dwarfism and loved my German accent.Said I was his own Heidi Klum

[CANDC]

@Stronglady1 that sounds like you have so much gratitude for your family's time with him. Hope those fond memories ease some of the pain you feel with his loss.

One thing I like about this forum is no matter what disabilty may have to endure, on here one can be just the person we know and admire as a friend since rarely do we get the opportunity to see people's appearances so we usually do not judge by them.

[MaverickLovesYou]

My Mom left this earth August 29, 2021. I will miss her sweet, caring ways. I am fortunate to be her son and proud to call her my Mother. Thank you for responding so quickly when I was 5 years old yelling Mommm, when a stranger in a car stopped in front of our house & got out to talk to me. Thank you for tirelessly rubbing hot ginger on my chest when I was a kid & sick. Thank you for all the delicious meals you cooked for me & the warm clothes you dressed me in before sending me off to school. Thank you for the strong words of encouragement when I knelt beside you & held your hand, the night before you went to the hospital. I was trying to be strong for you but you knew what I was feeling. Thank you for taking care of me for 50 years. My only consolation is you & Dad are together again in heaven. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MOMMY & I MISS YOU SO MUCH IT HURTS ❤️ 🙏

s for stronglady and maverick

[Stronglady1]

Originally Posted by CANDC

@Stronglady1 that sounds like you have so much gratitude for your family's time with him. Hope those fond memories ease some of the pain you feel with his loss.

One thing I like about this forum is no matter what disabilty may have to endure, on here one can be just the person we know and admire as a friend since rarely do we get the opportunity to see people's appearances so we usually do not judge by them.

He also treated me right as well.Never judged me too

[rechu]

My godfather/uncle. He lived far away, but about five years before he died he got in touch and we would share messages and photos about what was going on in our lives. We both shared a love of cooking and gardening, so we would send pictures of our plants and what we were cooking. He was hit by a car in January of 2021, so it has been almost 2 years. I miss him. I am thinking of doing something in his honor but still trying to figure out what.

[rechu]

An old family friend passed away from cancer yesterday. He and my father studied together and our family and his was very close. We used to go on vacation with them. We were accepted into their huge Irish-American family and invited to many of their family events over the years. They were like uncle/aunt/cousins to me. My father doesn't show much emotion, usually, but this seems understandably tough for him. To me it feels like losing a family member, even if I hadn't seen him for quite a while. There are a lot of memories there.

[CANDC]

@rechu sorry for the loss you feel. Hoping you find ways to work through your grief.

For me it is not how close someone is in my family, but how much that the loss of someone triggers the awareness that life is always changing and I too will someday be in that place. The older I get the more this seems to happen.

@CANDC

[rechu]

Yes, it definitely gets harder with age, CANDC. Not only have I lost a few people in my life in the last years that are my parents' age, but I have also had two friends close to my age pass, one from COVID and the other from a heart attack. It does make us think of our own mortality.

[TerryL]

my dad passed away in 1992. i don't think about him too much anymore but when i do, i really miss him. he was such a good dad to me. i love you so much daddy and wish you were with me still.

[EndlessDark]

This could be a long message, so be warned.

I lost my grandmother in 2015, but since I had lost contact with her I didn't even find out until a year later through a Google search for her. It wasn't until even later when I found out what happened. Instead of taking her medications that would keep her going, she was hiding it and didn't want to take them. So she essentially just gave up. It was crushing, and I'm still not over it because she meant the world to me growing up. In 2018 my other grandmother died. I was going to talk with a girl I met online when I found out, it hurt me so much I pushed the girl away which I deeply regret to this day. That grandmother I used to stay with over the entire summer vacation almost every year as a kid, and her house was basically more home to me than my own home. She died from a blood clot due to the IV while in the hospital.

In 2021 while he was at work, my dad had a diabetic attack and was taken to the hospital. While there they found he had liver cancer. He was given 8 months to live, he only lasted about 8 weeks. Admittedly my relationship with him over the years wasn't always the best, but it was still painful to lose him. To this day, in my head I can still hear my mom saying "your dad's gone". A year later I find out my favorite uncle has cancer, he died on my birthday. We were so close, we did so much together when I was a kid. My birthdays were already hard to deal with, but now I don't think I can ever enjoy one again.

I miss you all so much. I know I'll never be the same again with you all gone, because it was as if pieces of me left with you. I never got to say a proper goodbye to any of you, and I never got to truly express my love when I had the chance. I hope I can see you all again soon.

[MuddyBoots]

I miss you, Bean, and I hope you find your way wherever you need to go.

[TiredPilgrim]

Just lost hubby of 23 years to pancreatic cancer a week or so ago. Was diagnosed stage in early March. Still reeling. With help of family and hospice was able to keep him at home, as his liver was already too damaged at diagnosis for any treatment. (((((hugs))))) for anyone who has had to deal with cancer.

Still really miss my guinea pigs, too. Bossy little wheekers. <3