No Contact with mom

Hello all,

I'm considering going no contact with my mom due to a life long, on and off battle with her. We have never really had a great relationship. The last 2 years started looking up, only for something to happen and now it's worse than ever. We can never come to an agreement because she always justifies her actions with her religion. I'm beyond fed up that we can't have an open talk and move past our problems. I lost my dad 9 years ago (we were pretty close) and I will admit I'm afraid of losing her too. But I feel I always have bury my feelings, or ignore her absolute rudeness in order to have any kind of relationship. To me it's beyond ridiculous at this point. If you have gone no contact with a parent what made you decide to and how do you cope? There's a part of me that would feel horrible if something happened to her and we were no contact. I'm torn.

Hello Betterdayz .
I was voluntarily estranged from my mother for several years. I was doing therapy and was rehashing my past and found a great deal of fault with my parents. I dug up all the skeletons and along with it the painful memories and our relationship just blew up.
My parents moved back to the Czech Republic shortly after and we didn’t speak for 2 or 3 years. I kept doing therapy and realized that fault was an illusion and I forgave them and started the process of mending.
I would remember the times when I was a little boy and my mother was my world and it would always remember that unshakeable love that we shared. Growing up changes love but we can still remember what it was once like, and it never actually leaves us it’s just clouded by opinions and worries, vengeance and pride etc.
The only way I could love my mother again was with the love of a little boy, pure and without judgement and in return her heart responded in kind.
Now we have a sweet and honest connection, we don’t talk that often and that’s alright.
Not all mothers are the same, they are in some ways but not in others, so my story is my story, not a blueprint for anyone else, but it’s how I reconnected with my mother.
I realized that I had to do all the forgiving first.

Not agreeing on stuff is one thing. Its when the other side wants to obliterate you for disagreeing with them.