dealing with suicide

This a connection network online. It's a social network for survivors of suicide. I stumbled upon it right after my brother passed. Def check it out. You can find me under the screen name: Debbie Callahan
http://connect.legacy.com/group/suicidessurvivors

Hope this helps

Thank you for sharing a good site, it is not easy in dealing suicide, we should be thankful, many of us had overcome that feeling and still continue to live.

Most of us are survivors in more then one way and sometimes I wonder if that makes it harder :/

I'm a survivor of suicide also looking for help and someone to chat with. My spouse commited suicide two years ago and I'm trying to move forward. I would like to hear how you are coping and need someone to talk to also.

SunTracker

Hello everyone. First let me say how sorry I am to hear all of your stories of your grieving the loss of your loved ones to suicide. I know how hard it is to be going through such a traumatic ordeal. My name is Arielle and I am 25 years old. I have two beautiful daughters who give me the strength to keep moving forward everyday. On December16,2013 I became a widow after my husband of 6 years committed suicide. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. I swear some days I don't even know how I have the strength to get out of bed, but then it hits me that my girls need me to be the strong mommy that they've always had. Between the grief and the guilt, it's really starting to takes it toll on me. I have never been more ready to give up then I am right now but that little bit of strength left in me, and those two sets of big brown eyes of my daughters won't let me do it. Before finding this site I really didn't know where to turn, because I am still on a waiting list for counseling. I have family and friends but it's like I don't want to be a nuisance and keep crying about the same thing to the same people. I've always been a shy and private person, so that may be another reason I find it hard talking to the people I know. Anyways I just want to say thank you to everyone who created this site and thank you to everyone who has joined this site. It feels good knowing that there are people who understands.

Thanks, I too, am a suicide survivor. I had 4 suicides in my family, but only one was a person really close to me: my older brother.

I've had a tough time with it and its part of my problems.

I am new here and i am so sorry to hear of everyone's losses. Next month will mark the one year anniversary that my husband committed suicide. I just cannot come to terms with this. I already suffer from depression/anxiety/insomnia/panic disorder/PTSD so that doesn't help. I just hope to get some useful advice on how to cope with this. Thanks for listening

Our son died jan 5, 2015, hr shot himself. I'm looking for support.

Sorry about you loss, Drea57.

I'm sorry for your loss Drea57, suicide is so hard, grief is hard and when it is your child... We are hear to listen if you want to vent. I hope you have some support in real life too.

As my BFF since 6th grade died 1 month ago to an intentional overdose of heroin & OxyContin I've been feeling myself bipolar? I didn't know this about her. Nor did I realise how damn hard her death would hit me? It hurts too much. My mum passed / years ago. My dad at a tender age. Feeling alone in this world. I'm so sorry for everyone's losses. I'm no one special . It's my life is loss after loss. I felt like I wanted to die today. Wishing not to wake up. It's things like stumbling upon this page that gives me 1 strand if hope to hang on 1 more hour.

My brother just passed away in July. I have felt numb ever since then. I feel very guilty about it. I had to set some boundaries with him, as he was sometimes verbally abusive. Just needed to talk about it.

I may have posted already, but I too, lost a brother to suicide 25 years ago. I had set boundaries and feel guilty sometimes that I really didn't have him play an active role in my wedding. Most of the time I'm ok with my decision, but sometimes not. I've missed him lately and know he's at peace. (had drinking/drug/mental health issues) RIP BRO!

My issue is denied closure and I am told my brother shot himself but don't believe it. I want to. My life would be easier to believe it I have tried to believe it but I don't. I want to not suffer for not being certain I want to not question everyday who would be cruel to lie and then who would be cruel enough not to. I want the only thing to matter is that my brother is not in my life and to stop grieving I want to accept the cushion of other possibilities I entertain and stop the dismal ones I'm forced by uncertainty to have to consider

i just learned that my cousin's son hung himself 3 weeks ago. the family is devastated. he had aids, and used 'hard drugs', and was living an openly gay relationship in a very unaccepting community. it is easy to see why he chose to stop early.

sadly, this has brought back the other suicides in the extended family (which is VERY large), over the years. many of them were also easy to understand, to end unbearable suffering. but still, those left behind are finding it hard to move on.

i have an unusual relationship with death, and suicide, having failed more times than i succeeded, obviously. i can sympathize with the person who has reached an ending, and with those who are left to mourn.

i would just encourage those of you who know someone who is suffering unbearably, to decide early on what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right.

to everyone who has , is, or will be, facing that dilema~~ love blesses~

I'm sorry for your loss, so many times. I found part of your post particularly interesting "what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right " Wow, that would be a hard decision to make. I think most peoples first response is to stop them, to save them, but are we saving them? Or prolonging their pain and forcing them to not trust us with their thoughts again. In my experience some try several times and eventually they get it. Makes me wonder if you ever go to that dark deep place do you ever get it out of your head as an option. As you can tell your post was very thought provoking for me.

I just watched a suicide of a 12 year old young lady on FB, it was a live feed. And because she posted it herself they will not take it down. The kid is so pitiful, so alone, so sad, so depressed, it's heart breaking. You could hear cars passing near by. How could someone not see the red flags this kid had to be showing? RIP little girl, you were beautiful and amazing, just wish someone could have told you that until you believed it. And that you were not responsible for the foul behavior of your step dad, he was an evil man.
RIP Katelyn Nichole Davis, gone too soon.

Does it seem like suicide is more common now is it that social media is exposing it more? I really don't know. Sad that Kate Spade took this route, but it must have been something she thought she had to do. I hate June, so many memories of Dad and deep thinking about suicide. I guess we all have our personal beliefs about suicide and about it being our choice to live or die. I understand why dad took his life, just wish he had given me a chance to say good bye and made sure that I wouldn't be the one to find him. It's a picture that never gets easier to look at in your mind.

(((((( Trace14 ))))))

Thinking of you.

WC

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