dealing with suicide

Musica91 · Oct 28, 2014, 06:31 AM

Thanks, I too, am a suicide survivor. I had 4 suicides in my family, but only one was a person really close to me: my older brother.

I've had a tough time with it and its part of my problems.

Wish I was a cat · Nov 10, 2014, 03:30 PM

I am new here and i am so sorry to hear of everyone's losses. Next month will mark the one year anniversary that my husband committed suicide. I just cannot come to terms with this. I already suffer from depression/anxiety/insomnia/panic disorder/PTSD so that doesn't help. I just hope to get some useful advice on how to cope with this. Thanks for listening

Drea57 · Jan 17, 2015, 06:38 PM

Our son died jan 5, 2015, hr shot himself. I'm looking for support.

Grand Flunk · Jan 18, 2015, 12:26 AM

Sorry about you loss, Drea57.

pegasus · Jan 19, 2015, 10:44 AM

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Our son died jan 5, 2015, hr shot himself. I'm looking for support.

I'm sorry for your loss Drea57, suicide is so hard, grief is hard and when it is your child... We are hear to listen if you want to vent. I hope you have some support in real life too.

Gwinny/13 · Aug 26, 2015, 07:02 PM

As my BFF since 6th grade died 1 month ago to an intentional overdose of heroin & OxyContin I've been feeling myself bipolar? I didn't know this about her. Nor did I realise how damn hard her death would hit me? It hurts too much. My mum passed / years ago. My dad at a tender age. Feeling alone in this world. I'm so sorry for everyone's losses. I'm no one special . It's my life is loss after loss. I felt like I wanted to die today. Wishing not to wake up. It's things like stumbling upon this page that gives me 1 strand if hope to hang on 1 more hour.

Make BPD StigmaFree · Nov 29, 2015, 12:19 AM

My brother just passed away in July. I have felt numb ever since then. I feel very guilty about it. I had to set some boundaries with him, as he was sometimes verbally abusive. Just needed to talk about it.

Cat_Lover_58 · Nov 29, 2015, 01:37 AM

I may have posted already, but I too, lost a brother to suicide 25 years ago. I had set boundaries and feel guilty sometimes that I really didn't have him play an active role in my wedding. Most of the time I'm ok with my decision, but sometimes not. I've missed him lately and know he's at peace. (had drinking/drug/mental health issues) RIP BRO!

Cuehip · Mar 26, 2016, 03:15 AM

My issue is denied closure and I am told my brother shot himself but don't believe it. I want to. My life would be easier to believe it I have tried to believe it but I don't. I want to not suffer for not being certain I want to not question everyday who would be cruel to lie and then who would be cruel enough not to. I want the only thing to matter is that my brother is not in my life and to stop grieving I want to accept the cushion of other possibilities I entertain and stop the dismal ones I'm forced by uncertainty to have to consider

Gus1234U · Jul 17, 2016, 12:24 PM

i just learned that my cousin's son hung himself 3 weeks ago. the family is devastated. he had aids, and used 'hard drugs', and was living an openly gay relationship in a very unaccepting community. it is easy to see why he chose to stop early.

sadly, this has brought back the other suicides in the extended family (which is VERY large), over the years. many of them were also easy to understand, to end unbearable suffering. but still, those left behind are finding it hard to move on.

i have an unusual relationship with death, and suicide, having failed more times than i succeeded, obviously. i can sympathize with the person who has reached an ending, and with those who are left to mourn.

i would just encourage those of you who know someone who is suffering unbearably, to decide early on what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right.

to everyone who has , is, or will be, facing that dilema~~ love blesses~

Trace14 · Oct 14, 2016, 02:52 AM

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i just learned that my cousin's son hung himself 3 weeks ago. the family is devastated. he had aids, and used 'hard drugs', and was living an openly gay relationship in a very unaccepting community. it is easy to see why he chose to stop early.

sadly, this has brought back the other suicides in the extended family (which is VERY large), over the years. many of them were also easy to understand, to end unbearable suffering. but still, those left behind are finding it hard to move on.

i have an unusual relationship with death, and suicide, having failed more times than i succeeded, obviously. i can sympathize with the person who has reached an ending, and with those who are left to mourn.

i would just encourage those of you who know someone who is suffering unbearably, to decide early on what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right.

to everyone who has , is, or will be, facing that dilema~~ love blesses~

I'm sorry for your loss, so many times. I found part of your post particularly interesting "what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right " Wow, that would be a hard decision to make. I think most peoples first response is to stop them, to save them, but are we saving them? Or prolonging their pain and forcing them to not trust us with their thoughts again. In my experience some try several times and eventually they get it. Makes me wonder if you ever go to that dark deep place do you ever get it out of your head as an option. As you can tell your post was very thought provoking for me.

Trace14 · Jan 13, 2017, 12:10 AM

I just watched a suicide of a 12 year old young lady on FB, it was a live feed. And because she posted it herself they will not take it down. The kid is so pitiful, so alone, so sad, so depressed, it's heart breaking. You could hear cars passing near by. How could someone not see the red flags this kid had to be showing? RIP little girl, you were beautiful and amazing, just wish someone could have told you that until you believed it. And that you were not responsible for the foul behavior of your step dad, he was an evil man.
RIP Katelyn Nichole Davis, gone too soon.

Trace14 · Jun 05, 2018, 10:57 PM

Does it seem like suicide is more common now is it that social media is exposing it more? I really don't know. Sad that Kate Spade took this route, but it must have been something she thought she had to do. I hate June, so many memories of Dad and deep thinking about suicide. I guess we all have our personal beliefs about suicide and about it being our choice to live or die. I understand why dad took his life, just wish he had given me a chance to say good bye and made sure that I wouldn't be the one to find him. It's a picture that never gets easier to look at in your mind.

Wild Coyote · Jun 06, 2018, 08:42 AM

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Does it seem like suicide is more common now is it that social media is exposing it more? I really don't know. Sad that Kate Spade took this route, but it must have been something she thought she had to do. I hate June, so many memories of Dad and deep thinking about suicide. I guess we all have our personal beliefs about suicide and about it being our choice to live or die. I understand why dad took his life, just wish he had given me a chance to say good bye and made sure that I wouldn't be the one to find him. It's a picture that never gets easier to look at in your mind.

(((((( Trace14 ))))))

Thinking of you.

WC

Trace14 · Jun 06, 2018, 02:13 PM

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(((((( Trace14 ))))))

Thinking of you.

WC

Today is Dad's birthday, mine is the 16th. We always celebrated together some where in the middle. Plus Father's day this month....sigh.......

Trace14 · Jun 08, 2018, 08:25 PM

Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

Wild Coyote · Jun 09, 2018, 05:08 PM

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Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

Yes.

WC

Trace14 · Jun 09, 2018, 11:46 PM

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Yes.

WC

Will it ever stop feeling this way? I try to understand suicide and thought I did until it affected me personally. ....*sigh*

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018, 04:03 PM

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I will find and post links here to help deal with suicide

http://mirror.augusta.com/stories/09...i_142683.shtml

please post responses in a new thread. thanks

I lost my brother in law to suicide and been there myself.

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Trace14

Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

All the time!

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Trace14

Will it ever stop feeling this way? I try to understand suicide and thought I did until it affected me personally. ....*sigh*

Yes! It just takes lots of time.

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018, 04:06 PM

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Thanks for the links. I'm still a little shaken over my sister-in-law's suicide a few months ago. She left a nine-year-old behind and it hits so close to home that my heart just aches for him.

I'm so sorry that you are struggling right now!

zapatoes · Sep 28, 2019, 11:23 PM

Sometimes it’s just sad already, when someone is an addict and then they’re gone and you wish they could have beaten it and lived a good life, one you know they were capable of living, more than capable.

Buffy01 · Oct 01, 2019, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Trace14

Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

Sometimes! I lost someone to suicide! I only wish I had done something!

UnclesGirl · 09:41 AM

Hi everyone! I am sorry for everyone's losses. My heart knows the struggle so we'll.
I lost my fiancee 5 years ago. I can't explain the pain I have felt since that day. It has forever changed me. I always speak of my life in two chapters: before the suicide and after the suicide.
I can't think about it for to long or the pain overwhelms me. I have not dealt with this grief much.
I know that finding others that can understand my grief has been so helpful in my journey. So thank you everyone who shared.

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