dealing with suicide

Gus1234U · Jul 17, 2016 at 12:24 PM

i just learned that my cousin's son hung himself 3 weeks ago. the family is devastated. he had aids, and used 'hard drugs', and was living an openly gay relationship in a very unaccepting community. it is easy to see why he chose to stop early.

sadly, this has brought back the other suicides in the extended family (which is VERY large), over the years. many of them were also easy to understand, to end unbearable suffering. but still, those left behind are finding it hard to move on.

i have an unusual relationship with death, and suicide, having failed more times than i succeeded, obviously. i can sympathize with the person who has reached an ending, and with those who are left to mourn.

i would just encourage those of you who know someone who is suffering unbearably, to decide early on what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right.

to everyone who has , is, or will be, facing that dilema~~ love blesses~

Trace14 · Oct 14, 2016 at 02:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Gus1234U

i just learned that my cousin's son hung himself 3 weeks ago. the family is devastated. he had aids, and used 'hard drugs', and was living an openly gay relationship in a very unaccepting community. it is easy to see why he chose to stop early.

sadly, this has brought back the other suicides in the extended family (which is VERY large), over the years. many of them were also easy to understand, to end unbearable suffering. but still, those left behind are finding it hard to move on.

i have an unusual relationship with death, and suicide, having failed more times than i succeeded, obviously. i can sympathize with the person who has reached an ending, and with those who are left to mourn.

i would just encourage those of you who know someone who is suffering unbearably, to decide early on what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right.

to everyone who has , is, or will be, facing that dilema~~ love blesses~

I'm sorry for your loss, so many times. I found part of your post particularly interesting "what you would do to intervene, or if you would accept that decision as their right " Wow, that would be a hard decision to make. I think most peoples first response is to stop them, to save them, but are we saving them? Or prolonging their pain and forcing them to not trust us with their thoughts again. In my experience some try several times and eventually they get it. Makes me wonder if you ever go to that dark deep place do you ever get it out of your head as an option. As you can tell your post was very thought provoking for me.

Trace14 · Jan 13, 2017 at 12:10 AM

I just watched a suicide of a 12 year old young lady on FB, it was a live feed. And because she posted it herself they will not take it down. The kid is so pitiful, so alone, so sad, so depressed, it's heart breaking. You could hear cars passing near by. How could someone not see the red flags this kid had to be showing? RIP little girl, you were beautiful and amazing, just wish someone could have told you that until you believed it. And that you were not responsible for the foul behavior of your step dad, he was an evil man.
RIP Katelyn Nichole Davis, gone too soon.

Trace14 · Jun 05, 2018 at 10:57 PM

Does it seem like suicide is more common now is it that social media is exposing it more? I really don't know. Sad that Kate Spade took this route, but it must have been something she thought she had to do. I hate June, so many memories of Dad and deep thinking about suicide. I guess we all have our personal beliefs about suicide and about it being our choice to live or die. I understand why dad took his life, just wish he had given me a chance to say good bye and made sure that I wouldn't be the one to find him. It's a picture that never gets easier to look at in your mind.

Wild Coyote · Jun 06, 2018 at 08:42 AM

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Does it seem like suicide is more common now is it that social media is exposing it more? I really don't know. Sad that Kate Spade took this route, but it must have been something she thought she had to do. I hate June, so many memories of Dad and deep thinking about suicide. I guess we all have our personal beliefs about suicide and about it being our choice to live or die. I understand why dad took his life, just wish he had given me a chance to say good bye and made sure that I wouldn't be the one to find him. It's a picture that never gets easier to look at in your mind.

(((((( Trace14 ))))))

Thinking of you.

WC

Trace14 · Jun 06, 2018 at 02:13 PM

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(((((( Trace14 ))))))

Thinking of you.

WC

Today is Dad's birthday, mine is the 16th. We always celebrated together some where in the middle. Plus Father's day this month....sigh.......

Trace14 · Jun 08, 2018 at 08:25 PM

Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

Wild Coyote · Jun 09, 2018 at 05:08 PM

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Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

Yes.

WC

Trace14 · Jun 09, 2018 at 11:46 PM

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Yes.

WC

Will it ever stop feeling this way? I try to understand suicide and thought I did until it affected me personally. ....*sigh*

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018 at 04:05 PM

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Will it ever stop feeling this way? I try to understand suicide and thought I did until it affected me personally. ....*sigh*

Yes! It just takes lots of time.

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018 at 04:04 PM

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Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

All the time!

Buffy01 · Oct 01, 2019 at 06:45 PM

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Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way?

Sometimes! I lost someone to suicide! I only wish I had done something!

Buffy01 · Oct 21, 2018 at 04:03 PM

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I will find and post links here to help deal with suicide

http://mirror.augusta.com/stories/09...i_142683.shtml

please post responses in a new thread. thanks

I lost my brother in law to suicide and been there myself.

zapatoes · Sep 28, 2019 at 11:23 PM

Sometimes it’s just sad already, when someone is an addict and then they’re gone and you wish they could have beaten it and lived a good life, one you know they were capable of living, more than capable.

MariaSmith8 · Apr 11, 2022 at 05:15 PM

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I will find and post links here to help deal with suicide

please post responses in a new thread. thanks

Thank you for the link!

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Trace14 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2014 Location: North Carolina Posts: 4,009 9 2,762 hugs given	Jun 08, 2018 at 08:25 PM #7 Even though I was not a big fan of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain so much talk about their suicides is very triggering. Anyone else feel that way? __________________ "Caught in the Quiet"
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zapatoes Grand Magnate Member Since Sep 2018 Location: Islandia Posts: 4,263 (SuperPoster!) 5 10.9k hugs given	Sep 28, 2019 at 11:23 PM #14 Sometimes it’s just sad already, when someone is an addict and then they’re gone and you wish they could have beaten it and lived a good life, one you know they were capable of living, more than capable.
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