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Oct 26, 2008, 11:17 PM
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My stepmother, Doris, passed away Saturday night. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's about five years ago, and spent the last year in a special Alzheimer's facility. I am pleased that she died in her sleep. She was 89.
Doris was a second mother to me. My parents divorced when I was eleven. During my teens, my relationship with my real mother could be best described as "toxic", although we later patched that up. When I was 17 I went to live with my father and Doris. They were both more motivating as parents than my mother. There was also more discipline. This is what I needed. One day I was doing some chores for her at her office when a lady she hadn't seen in years saw her and came in. Doris said to the lady, "I would like you to meet my son, Gary". The lady responded by saying that she remembered a son John, but not a son Gary. Doris explained that I was her husband's son. I was touched, and literally blown away, that she would introduce me as her son. That moment says it all about this great lady. We all miss her very much. bfG |
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Oct 27, 2008, 12:34 AM
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She sounds like a neat person. I bet she lived a good life. And I'm sure you have misssed her for some time since she had Alzheimer's.
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Oct 27, 2008, 12:56 AM
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sending condolences Gary, she is still a special woman to you and always will be
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Oct 27, 2008, 01:18 AM
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dear gary,
thank you for sharing about your mom Doris. what a special lady; i am so glad you had her in your life. i know you have been suffering her loss for a long time now but i wish to express my sympathy over your loss. i hope you can post here as you work through you sadness so we can be there for you. respectfully, leslie
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Oct 27, 2008, 05:23 AM
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gary, I am sorry for your loss. Doris sounds like a great lady who will be greatly missed.
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Oct 27, 2008, 05:40 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear of Doris' passing, but so happy you had her her in your life. She sounds very special
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Oct 27, 2008, 05:54 AM
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I am sorry for your loss.
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Oct 27, 2008, 06:17 AM
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(((((((((((((( Gary & Doris )))))))))))))))))))
I'm so glad you have memories you can celebrate about sabby |
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Oct 27, 2008, 07:39 AM
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sorry for your loss..hold your memories tight
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Oct 27, 2008, 07:53 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss Gary...
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Oct 27, 2008, 08:35 AM
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(((( gary )))) I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure she was a wonderful woman and an even more wonderful parent. I'm glad you have good memories of her.
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Oct 27, 2008, 09:47 AM
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The only "good" thing about Alzheimer's is that is gives you time to ease into the loss. But such a loss. Such a long life! You do well to remember the good stuff, I'm sure there is a lot of it.
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Oct 27, 2008, 09:55 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a really special woman. I'm glad that you have good memories of her.
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#14
Oct 27, 2008, 11:37 AM
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Thank you all for your replies. We were prepared for this, but when it happens it still hurts.
My sister and I spent most of Sunday with my dad, talking about family and old times. Dad is one who doesn't show a lot of emotion, but you know he's hurting. But he also knows that Doris is in a better place now, no more pain, no more confusion. Dad also lives in assisted living. Although he can be forgetful sometimes, there is no real diagnosis, except for age. Again, thanks to everybody for the support. Gary |
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Oct 27, 2008, 11:51 AM
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Gary,
I am sorry for your loss. My mother also passed away in her sleep. She was 88. EJ Quote:
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Oct 27, 2008, 12:24 PM
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Gary, sorry for your loss
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