[naughty noo noo]

Hi everyone,

Im new to this forum, actually found this place by mistake and joined. Was looking for advise reguarding berevement, how long is normal etc. And when i read through some of the threads already written in this section i feel really selfish and bad.

There are really sad, touching posts on here about people losing their mum, dad and even kids.

My loss is my beloved dog Scooby, and some people will be like wow a dog is that all! But Scooby was my baby. I have never felt pain and saddness like i did the day i lost him. He had such a horrible death.

My boyfriend was walking him in fields near our house. Scooby liked to chase the deer (he's a lurcher - built for hunting and chasing game) he chased a deer onto nearby trainway tracks. My boyfriend couldn't get him off the line. He phoned me, i was stupidly working an overtime that morning. My boyfriend was screaming over the phone in a panic because a train was coming. I could heard the train coming over the phone, and my boyfriend screaming for Scooby to come to him, but he didn't. I heard the train get closer and then Scooby scream. I can hear it even still. Scooby died in my boyfriends arms. He too shares guilt over his death.

Im still crying for Scooby all the time, i think of him always and it still hurts. Im having nightmares about him and they scare me. I can't move on and in a way don't want to. I never want to forget him. Why do these bad things happen?

Scooby was only 3 years old when he was taken from us. Still a baby. My baby.

[bebop]

I am so sorry for your loss of poor scooby. there are others here that have lost their beloved pets. what a tragic way to lose him hon. I don't think there is a set time limit for grieving. it all depends on the person. you are not alone here hon.

[cantstopcrying]

Honey, pets are such an important part of people's lives, don't feel like your grieving is any less important than anyone elses. I can't even begin to imagine the horror you and your boyfriend went through. Don't try to put a time limit on your grief. It's diferent for everyone.

[Rapunzel]

Pets are important 'people' in our lives too. My family and I still miss our dog, Oscar, who got out of the house to chase a truck (the one truck that kept driving past our house that Oscar could not resist chasing), and it hit him. It was something like ten years ago. There is no other dog in the world like Oscar, and it was like losing a child. We lost a member of our family.

Don't judge yourself for your grief. What you feel is what you feel, and it is real to you. In life we have to mourn all of our losses, whether it is a death, illness, loss of opportunity, even losing your favorite pen. If it has meaning for you, you will need to go through the grief process.

There is no set time limit, as we all grieve differently, and even the same person grieves differently each time. When you have worked through it, you will be ready to move on. It doesn't make it okay, but you will be able to continue with your life and find meaning and joy in what life has to offer.

[HarlequinJester]

You could know someone for a few months and still grieve when they die. It doesn't matter who, it just matters how much they meant to you.