[misse]

Just wanted to know what to expect in terms of grief for a relative you weren't especially close to? My mother's sister passed away recently due to kidney cancer. She was comparatively young (in her 60s) and it was quite sudden, but to be honest my sister and I did not know her so well as she lived very far away from us, so we only had occasional visits. Obviously our Mum is grieving and we will support her however we can. But we wanted to know what to expect for us/what is "normal" for someone in our situation in terms of grief?
thanks for any insight!

[bebop]

not real sure there is a specific guide to grieving someone we were not close to. I would imagine a sadness for the loss for sure. I think it really depends on how close you were or were not. I am sorry for your loss though. a loss is a loss to me.

The grief you might encounter will probably be sadness for your mom's loss. She will be hurting and you will definetly feel that. You might grieve for yourself as well, over the loss of never getting the chance to really know her.

I guess it would depend on your mom's state of mind, but maybe now is a good time to ask your mom about her... kinda get to know her now. What was it like for them growing up, funny things she did, things they used to fight over.

Just some thoughts.

[thunderbear]

Hi. I was never close to my grandmothers aunt and when she died last ear, I was'nt particularly sad. I felt sad for my grandmother and my aunts children and grandchildren because she died a long death from alzheimers.