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Poohbah
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Mar 17, 2010 at 08:17 PM
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Its like everyday when I pick my kids up from school or when we are at home all day or even go anywhere my kids are constantly fighting and its getting to where I can't handle it anymore. And its like they just don't care. They are 8 & 6. I know they are going into that phase but I don't know how much more I can handle. And they don't listen to me when I tell them to stop and that I can't handle it. What do I do to get them to see what they are doing to me is not good. I'm desperate for help!
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Mar 17, 2010 at 08:31 PM
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Have you tried putting them in time out in different areas of the house?
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Mar 17, 2010 at 09:17 PM
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Yes. I've also tried taking away things they enjoy, going to bed early, a lot of different stuff
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Mar 17, 2010 at 09:25 PM
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Are you always consistant? How long do you take things away for? It's common to fight more when they're close in age. Would offering a reward for not fighting work- like rewarding a star for everyday they don't fight. Once they get 5 or 10 stars they get something - not huge or expensive.
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Mar 17, 2010 at 10:00 PM
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Yeah I am. For about a week. And yeah they are very close in age. And yea I have a reward chart. If they are good for the whole week I take them to the store and let them pick out something from like the dollar store or some other place like that. But for a while now they haven't been getting any. I just feel like a bad mom. Like I'm not doing something right. They treat me like dirt just like my husband does.
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Mar 18, 2010 at 04:07 AM
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In the UK we have parenting courses normally ran via the local child Health visitor, who we can get in contact with via the local Drs surgery.
Is there something along the lines of that near you ? It is good to be able to refresh your parenting skills or to be taught new ways from other people who have been where you are. Why not give the Drs a call to see if they run something like that near you ? 
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Mar 18, 2010 at 11:09 AM
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Yes they used to witness it but now when he is in a bad mood I tell them to in their room so they don't see.
And they used to have parenting classes at school but they don't start again till next year. But I will ask the doctor today when I go if there is anywhere around here. I live in texas so there isn't a lot where I am. |
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Mar 18, 2010 at 11:13 AM
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I agree positive parenting classes would be good. Since they are 6 and 8 - have them sit down with you with a pencil and paper. Ask for their input on how to get along better. It won't be a pointing the finger blame game but a solution game. Have them write down rules they have to follow, when they have a conflict like - no name calling and not hitting each other. Teach them good problem solving like knowing when to walk away.
Try once a day to play with them something like a board game or video game. Often children fight when they're bored. Since you mentioned marital problems, perhaps they need to talk about their feelings. Good luck
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Mar 18, 2010 at 11:47 AM
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Thank you. I will do that. And we often play the wii. And I know they get bored. I have slight agoraphobia. So I know they are tired of being cooped up. So we play games and stuff.
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May 02, 2010 at 03:02 PM
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to tell the truth kids just fight. it may not be the best way to express emotions but it is how they deal with their new found problems and frustrations in life. seperation can go along way twords sibling love. i think the main broblem you are having is that of respect for your desisions. any disrespect shown to you by your children is a major warning sign that they are in a new situation and are testing the limits.
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Jul 14, 2010 at 02:34 PM
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Have you already handled the situation? |
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