Getting spanked by a homeschooling teacher??

I just read this thread. I'm glad you talked to your dad. Glad he took decisive action and kicked the girl out of your house. I'm a teacher and I'm really sorry you had to experience this kind of abuse. Let us know affirmatively that the girl is gone! You said a "few days," and in the meantime, I'm kind of concerned for you.
Patty

Thanks for gettinp back to us Kricket1992. I am glad your dad is kicking her out so fast. I would not be surprised if she tried to deny your actions to your dad. Keep posting.

Thanks God she's leaving. I agree with with NF - someone like that might be manipulative. I wouldn't feel sorry for her at all. If you were my child I would call the police on this lady. I honestly would throw her stuff out the door and she would be out in 10 minutes. I'm very proud you told Kricket and make sure you stay strong and don't let her intimidate you - don't be alone with her. I was really worried about you and I'm sorry you had to suffer like this. I can't believe she wants to be a psychologist - she's disturbed.

Lynn, Ironically enough, there are enough disordered t's out there that this person could very well end up on the wrong side of the desk in the mental health field. Scarey thought!

Yes I agree with you on that one NF.

Yeah. She denied everything. I'm not going to lie. Now that she is leaving, I can say this. But back in January, we were wrestling on the floor and I was trying to get away from her because she was trying to hold me down because I was getting really upset and out of control. But as I was trying to get away, somehow my face got slammed into the floor and I broke my nose really bad. And she said to tell my parents that I fell. So I did. But nobody believed me. And then in February, we were wrestling again and she "accidentally" punched me in the face and broke it again. I had to go to a specialist to make sure it wasn't causing issues. I will let you guys know when she is gone for good. I'm staying at my mom's for now until she's gone.

I am so glad you are away from her. The abuse stories seem to be only the tip of the iceberg and seem to reveal so much more as time goes on...both on here and in the news. I am so sorry that you had to put up with her and for sharing what was going on in your life. Very brave young woman you are. I hope you stay on here...she may no longer be a threat to you but we still care. Hope you can breathe a little easier now. Safe hugs for you!

I too, am so glad some decisive action has been taken. Well done on doing the right thing kricket. I know it must of been hard for you.

This is so sad Kricket - this is clear physical abuse. Do you know if your parents get your medical records and call the police - she could be arrested? This woman is dangerous - how old is she? Let us know when she's gone. I'm sorry you had to suffer so much.

I have 2 daughters 8 and 11 and I've taught them about being assertive with anyone who hurts them. My oldest has her brown belt in Karate. I think it would be great for you to learn how to protect yourself and be assertive. No one has the right to hurt you physically or emotionally - even if you're bad. I'm very happy you're safe now

The sad thing is Lynn, this woman is only 24 and kricket is 17. That is what shocked me so about this all.

Kricket, I am so glad you reached out to us. I know that I thought about this so much after you posted and felt distinctly uncomfortable about the situation and what you have been going through. You did the right thing by reaching out and you have been very brave in talking to your Dad who has taken the necessary action to get this woman out of your life.

I also don't see how a 24 yr old, unless she's a qualified teacher, can live in and take responsibility of a 17 yr old. I worry what this young woman might do to others - if she babysits some other persons children. This is why I think the authorities should be notified - if it's recorded she abused Kricket she won't be able to get a job caring for children.

I agree there's something off - where you trust a strange woman to have complete control over a teenager.

I totally understand about the control thing. But she also got me in close because she became my friend as well. And I do know how to defend myself. I just for some reason didn't want to use it on her. From minute one I felt that I couldn't hurt her. It was weird. I am almost a brown belt in Tae Kwon Do. And she is one belt higher than me. We go to the same Tae Kwon Do school. But yeah. I don't have any medical records of bruises or my broken nose. She told me I didn't need to go to the hospital for my broken nose. She just gave me some heavy pain killers, made me put ice on it and then I went to sleep for the rest of the night. But I went to the doctor for the second broken nose. But there were no xrays taken. So yeah. She has lots of friends with kids. And she babysits all the time. But I've never seen her hit any of them. So who knows:-(

I agree it wouldn't have been a good idea to defend yourself against her - I think she had the upper hand here. I was referring to the future, if anyone tries to hurt you. You said she babysits other kids but never saw her hurt them - I bet no one saw you get hurt either. She waits until she's alone to hurt others. Anyway I'm glad your father believed you and she'll be gone soon. Good for you.

Kricket...this is a very strange situation. Your father let this young woman live in your house and have full control over you. She needs to be out of your house NOW! Is she? I'm glad you are staying with your mother at this time. Your mother should be outraged. I would be. I really question your father's judgment in allowing this to happen...sorry. IF this 24 year old woman is not out of the home NOW, be very careful about returning there, if you have a choice. I'm concerned and I want to know what is happening.
Patty

Good to hear that you finally told your father... I am PROUD of YOU!

She's gone now... My mom is whatever about it. My mom never shows her real emotions about things. She doesn't want to be too negative about it. But it's whatever. I am back home now and she is out of here. So yeah. I'm feeling a lot better now:-) Thanks guys for all the support! I will be posting on some of your guys' posts soon to help you guys out in return!:-)

Good for YOU...... You should be PROUD for speaking up.
Now to start your new life... Always be Good and Do your Best.

Thanks for letting us know Kricket - I'm glad she's gone.

Thanks guys for all your support! It really means a lot:-)

I think there is mentally wrong with a person 24 years old who would try to put a 17 year old on their lap and spank them, and why are you not leaving the house and going for help or calling for help, etc. This is all wrong in my book!! Your Dad needs to be alerted so he can get this person out of your lives. This is not normal! Sounds like something out of a nightmare to me.

Have you thought about pressing charges against her? You have every right to do that and the spanking thing to me, considering your age and that she is not related to you, sounds dangerously close to sexual assualt. no one has the right to touch you and even with an age appropriate situation you would never pour hot sauce into a childs mouth. Thats abuse no matter how old the child is. Im glad you got a way from her and that your dad kicked her out, you might want to talk to your parents about speaking with the parents of other children she is taking care of. Because one of two things is going to happen if not both, 1 she is going to end up seriously injuring or killing a child and 2 a parent will figure out what she is doing and she will end up seriously injured or dead. Just speaking from a mothers point of view and I dont condone violence at all, but if you were my child this chic would be in some serious physical pain right about now!!

hi kricket. i've only just now read this thread and boy am i glad for you she's gone. i'm really concerned about her hitting you and then giving you "heavy pain killers". i think you should tell your dad about this as she's probably doing it to other kids as well. this is really dangerous behavior on her part. do you know if these pills were prescription or over-the-counter or illegal?

I am very glad to hear she's gone, and I would highly consider reporting this to the police. If other parents knew about this and questioned their children, I bet they'd come up with similar stories. This woman should not have access to children, and if she became a therapist I certainly wouldn't want to end up getting treated by her. Thus I'd want it on her record.

Also, I am almost 24 now, and I would never consider spanking a girl your age. (Albeit I wouldn't spank young children either, but that's for a different reason.) For me the former would be sexual though, thus highly inappropriate. The fact that she 'became your friend so you wouldn't fight back or speak out,' demonstrates to me that she's manipulative enough to have premeditated this whole thing. This woman sounds like a definite danger. I'm glad she's out of your life.

Hey kricket. Thanks for checking in. So what are your plans now? Summer is comming. Remembered you kinda lost touch with your school mates and was concerned that you would not have the emotional support you need as well as any educational goals you might be working on. Looking forward to hearing from you.

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In your previous thread http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=137470 you said you are 18 years old. Are you an adult or no?

I understand that you have had a therapist (outside the house) for at least 3 years. How you didn't tell to that one this?

Sincerely for me it's hard to imagine someone could put hot sauce in your mouth. Are you immobilized in a wheelchair? (I didn't understand that it's so)
But in that case she can't spank you...

If she would humiliate or harm you I suppose you would not respect her I also do not understand why you are not going to school outside the house.

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