[Victoria'smom]

I'm visiting my son and feel like a horrible parent. I don't know if it's because we could only stay for a week, or I'm depressed, or it's just that he's turning 10, or it's because I won't see him for another two months but I really just don't want to be here. He's so happy here but seems to be less and less happy while we're here. I don't know if I want him to come home.

In a months time he's gone from understanding why we take medication to wanting us off medication because "it's not truly us" and "we're not crazy". I spent 2 hours last night explaining why we take our medication, why his dad can't work yet, our Dx's and what that means for our family. I really wish that this was easy for us but it's not

Your second paragraph concerns me. It sounds like perhaps the grandparents or someone there are giving him messages about you that are confusing him. A 10-year-old doesn't ask you to go of medication all on his own. That came from someone and they need to be straightened out. Someone is giving him the message that only crazy people take medications and that medication change who you are in a negative way. It is the adults who are confusing him that need to get in line with the truth and stop confusing your son.

[googley]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

I'm visiting my son and feel like a horrible parent. I don't know if it's because we could only stay for a week, or I'm depressed, or it's just that he's turning 10, or it's because I won't see him for another two months but I really just don't want to be here. He's so happy here but seems to be less and less happy while we're here. I don't know if I want him to come home.

In a months time he's gone from understanding why we take medication to wanting us off medication because "it's not truly us" and "we're not crazy". I spent 2 hours last night explaining why we take our medication, why his dad can't work yet, our Dx's and what that means for our family. I really wish that this was easy for us but it's not

I agree with farmergirl. The second paragraph is concerning. That he thinks he can dictate your medical treatment is alarming. That someone has suggested that only "crazy" people take medication is concerning. At 10 years old he does not need a long description of why you take medication. He needs to know that you are taking medication to help you feel better. That you love him, and you are doing your best for him. Is he in therapy? If no, I would suggest that you get him into therapy.. That will provide him with accurate information and give him somewhere to discuss his worries about what is going on. You need to have a discussion with whomever he is staying with about his statements that "crazy" people take medication. Good luck.

[Victoria'smom]

Sorry that this has spelling mistakes I don't have spell check.... quick mention of suicide.

Thanks guys

He has 1/3 the decisions in our family and makes his decisions his medication unless it's life threatining. I am truely sure all of these statments where made through his own concutions. Our family does not talk about medication and strongly believe IN medication. I believe him when I asked who he talked to about this and he said no one. He told us today that it's because he doesn't want us to die due to the medication. Stupid lawyer commercials. We don't have TV so all the floods of tourt commercials concered him.

He knows our dx. has looked it up online by himself. This whole disscution came about because I was on PC, he knows what PC is and he had a fit. I think this was more about him, HIS dreams, his medication and admitting mental illness. He's worried that Mental illness and the ability to succed with mental illness. To him if the cemicals in our brain are weird, how is he going to be a great scientist when that relize on the brain. So because medication changes the brain it changes you. Yes, he's a weird 10 yr. old. He felt his ADHD medication "changed him" and that's why he chose not to continue it.

We went over other "invisable" desisase and how they require medication. We also went over what our Dx. means, how medication helps, who we see, what position on our treatment each person plays and that we want to change his treatment team to the same center we are in so we could have a more coherant team. He has agreed to change his Pdoc, therapist, and family dr. After I had him draw our conversation.Then he ran out and explained it to his dad. I was more worried that he tried to end his life again because he is picking at his skin again. Then his toughts on us taking medication or who, if anyone, was talking crap about us.

[ickydog2006]

I can totally see how those commercials got into his head. They are on ALL the time. There use to be too many commercials promoting meds, now there are too many against them. I can see how he is having a hard time understand this, especially when he felt his meds weren't beneficial for him, why would yours be any different. Overall, I think you are doing really well with the situation you are in. I know it must be really difficult trying to explain these complicated things to a child.