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Jul 31, 2013, 07:51 PM
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I have come to find out my ex husb is in a relationship with a 17yo. She has a 2yo child! My child is just a few years younger than the new GF! The ex doesn't see anything wrong with it and has no qualms about exposing my son to this My son met the girl and I don't think realizes her true age, just knows she's young.
I told my ex he can see my son during the day for visitation on a weekend but can't have a sleepover. I'm ready to call the cops at this point. he says she's emancipated. Good for him for working out that legal technicality.  what does it take to wake these morons up to reality? btw the ex has no job, no car, no home or apt. At this point, I don't even have an address. He's coming into town for the weekend. What would you do? |
 Anonymous100103, lynn P., Webgoji
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Jul 31, 2013, 08:11 PM
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I'd be pissed off! It doesn't sound to me like your ex is making good decisions! I'd worry too! And I don't think I'd be comfortable with my child going for a sleep over either. Hugs to you!
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Jul 31, 2013, 08:18 PM
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I can understand why you're upset. Is he coming with her and where is going to stay? This would be very awkward and not sure what can be done. How much older is he?
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Jul 31, 2013, 08:30 PM
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Aug 01, 2013, 12:50 PM
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Do you have a family law attorney you can call to get advice? Thinking of you.
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| Heather11
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Aug 08, 2013, 02:13 PM
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I would stick with him being able to have his visitation rights, but no sleep over. Don't budge. Personally...I would not hide how stupid of a situation it is without "bad mouthing"...but that's me...your son might already be inclined to agree it's inappropriate. I don't know many people who are not upset with their parent dating somebody the kid could be dating.
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Aug 08, 2013, 03:43 PM
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There is no reason in the world that your son needs a 'sleepover' with his visiting dad. Explain this to you son, that what his dad is proposing is inappropriate. And just say no. 1000 people would back you up. It is ridiculous & he shouldn't get away with it.
Dinner out? Yes. Movies? Great. Drop the boy off after a nice evening? Of course. If he brings the girl that immediately changes the trip, & the dynamics. He sounds dopey enough not to realize this. If it were me I would say, 'when you can find time to spend with your son, devoted/dedicated time, let us know'. What he does on his own time is his business. This is your son's time. When my estranged (or, er, strange) H wanted to take my son on a trip to visit an old gf, I said, "NO. Inappropriate. Not gonna happen." And it didn't. Father/Son time should be that. I agree with previous poster. Hold Your Ground. 
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Aug 09, 2013, 01:58 AM
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Hum? Sounds like my ex! He too as a 25 year old was sleeping around with 17 year olds. I think they are easy targets/victims. Try to remove yourself emotionally from what he is doing with his life. If he is like my ex he will only continue to reap more destruction. Don't bad mouth your ex to your son, that could easy turn on you. Allow visitation but no sleep overs. If your son and ex could have one-on-one time together that would be ideal, better for everyone involved.
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Oct 14, 2013, 05:00 PM
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I think a 17 year old is old enough to decide she wants to be involved with him, and on an absolute moral level I don't have an absolute problem with it, however it does may me think you EX is mentally unstable in some way, especially as you mention he has no job etc.
Is he 25, is that right? It is somewhat dodgy I admit, I mean he is on the absolute cutoff limit for me. Where I live 17 is age of consent, so if she was younger I would call the police! If he is older than 25 then that is even more dodgy, and even more concerning. If he is 25 and has there is absolutely no signs of any form of abuse or seriously inappropriate behavior then I would probably let is slide somewhat myself.. |
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Nov 08, 2013, 08:12 PM
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My ex is 43. He broke up with this girl for a while but now that she's 18, he may pursue her again, so he says. He still doesn't get it and he won't. That's the age of someone that is going to "get him", as he puts it. That's incredibly telling right there!
He doesn't get that time with his kids should be just that. |
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Nov 08, 2013, 08:46 PM
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Gesh, and here I felt I was rocking the cradle with 24 year old girls when I was 50. They came on to me, but I never reciprocated. I just kept seeing my daughter at that age and that just felt so wrong for a man my age with a girl even 24ish. Legal or not, 17 I'd feel like a freaking pervert!
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