Babysitting help?

I have a child I'm babysitting that doesn't know what sleep is. I'm a college student with class tomorrow. Help? If you hold it, It cries. If you put it to bed it cries. It isn't hungry, I just changed the diaper. What it wants is to come out and play. Last time she was here my dad had to keep her busy all night so I could sleep but he is at work and she is driving me crazy

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How old is the child? She is in an unfamiliar place. That can make it hard to sleep. Warm milk can help. Calcium is good for helping us to sleep. Are you trying to sleep, or are you up doing something? If all the lights are out, the child will be more likely to feel sleepy. If it looks like you are doing something fun, she probably is curious and wants to be involved. Where is she supposed to sleep? What if you gave her a pillow and blanket and let her or him settle down near you. She might fall asleep there easier than all alone in a strange place.

8 months. I was trying to sleep but after an hour of non stop crying I figure this is all I'm getting. I think I've just realized I'm not having kids. She has a bed. If you take her out she won't lay down. She wants to play.

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Avoid eye contact. Hold her if, you need to. If not hungry, nor in need of a diaper change. Placing her, back in her crib bed, will show that it's bedtime. I agree with dimmed room, no stimulation, such as tv or the likes.

I mentioned avoid eye contact, because, to do that, shows, that you are there, but it's not attention time. Is the bed, in the same room, as you? Have you tried, putting her back, to bed and quietly going to bed, yourself?

Is she crying, or just alert?

She was crying. Her bed was in my room. I laid her down then went to bed myself. She wasn't hungry, or wet, or anything. She just wants to play because her mom stays up all night. I'm not going to watch her on a school night anymore. I just can't not sleep before school.

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Probably, a good idea, to get needed rest on school nights.

It was one thing,I was good at, where motherhood is concerned, good sleep routines, for my boys.

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I don't know how it would work with the child you're babysitting, but my wife and I always had our daughter sleep with us in our bed. Our daughter hardly ever, ever cried at bed time or acted up. When mom and dad went to bed and went to sleep she knew it was time for her to go to bed and go to sleep. She was always able to enjoy the security and closeness of being near us as she slept so she usually slept very soundly. Also, she usually slept all the way through the night after she was about a month old.

She moved into her own bed when she was ready to go there. She was about two when she decided to sleep in her own bed.

She was and still is a very well adjusted person.

Dan

Were you ever afraid you'd squash her? Animals won't even sleep with me anymore because I move, kick, hit, ect in my sleep.

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Dont babysit on school nights anymore. Also, you can let her play in her crib put a show on or something, give her toys. This is a hard habit to break and she wont sleep if she sleeps in the day from being up late with her mom, and you cannot really break her routine that easily as a babysitter. Or you could try making it dark and quiet and putting her bed outside your door so she knows you arent there to take her out again. The more you take her out the more she thinks she will be able to convince her. The more you let her stay she will eventually learn thT shes not coming out and will stop crying.

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Parents cannot squash their child bc of the instincts they have as biological parents..unless on drugs or alcohol. But as a babysitter you could accidently hurt her if you move around a lot. Good luck

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Not true. It has happened. Especially if the parent is very tired. I agree that a babysitter should not take the child to bed and sleep with her.

My hb wakes up at the slightest move. Im a deep sleepr and if shes in our bed I dont move at all, staying still even in sleep and wake up uncomfortable. Ive heard that studys have been done on co sleeping. It also is considered a healthy thing to do to prevent sids. Babies in crib or seperate room are the ones studies have found that mostky die of sids. But if it makes you worry or you have uncontrollable sleeping habits I wouldnt chance it

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Our daughter slept between us for two years. I was always more worried about SIDS than I was squashing her. I frequently woke up just to make sure she was still breathing.

A guy that worked for me had his daughter die from SIDS.

But was I worried we'd squish her? No. It wasn't ever much of a concern. And we Loved having her sleep with us... I think it was as good for us as it was for her. In fact, once she decided that she wanted to sleep in her own bed, I think my wife and I had more trouble adjusting to the new arrangement than she did!

Dan

That's an interesting factoid. I don't recall being under the influence of anything yet I almost rolled over on my daughter while deeply asleep. Luckily my husband is a light sleeper. One and only time she was in our bed that little. Now if she's sick and needs daddy (daddy's girl since birth)to sleep I either sleep as far away as I can or sleep on the couch and have her sleep in my spot.


As for OP I'd say don't babysit on school nights. I had a similar issue at 17. I was a live in babysitter for this woman's 4 kids. 2 went to school but the 2 younger were with me all day. She wanted me to wake up and keep up her daughter by 8 am but she wouldn't make her go to bed till she crashed which was 2-3 am most nights. And when I finally just took over duties completely for a week and got her on a schedule I took 2 nights off to go visit family and she got it all messed up again. I quit after that. You and the mom need to talk and get on the same page. If you can't I'd decline to babysit on nights you need to sleep


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Not good. Sounds like she has bad habits forming and that's not something you can influence in a night if her mother is not teaching her when to sleep. I definitely would not agree to babysit her on a school night anymore.