[cureav]

Hi there,
a few moments ago I was at my neighbors house, drinking some cafe. She is 32, I am 31. We were chatting about different subjects. Her daughter (about 12 y/o) came from school and started to talk about her stuff.
I have noticed that I become extremely jealous to her daughter cause all the attention was shifting to her. I tried to cover up, to ask her daughter some usual question, but she recognized my childishness and attention jealousy.

Anybody have these issues and is it normal? Am I new in this cause I don't have kids...?

[gayleggg]

Maybe it was just you are not very comfortable around children. My daughter is grown and married and on her own and has no children. I find when i'm around a friends grandchildren I'm just not sure how to talk to them. It's just been too long since I have had to deal with children. It leaves me feeling awkard not neccessarly jealous.

Even if it is jealousy, give yourself a break, we all feel that at sometime or another. The more time you spend with your friend when her daughter is around most likely you will start to be more comfortable.

[cureav]

Thanks gayleggg, I guess it was just basic and primitive impulse of jealousy.
What I was afraid was some immature issues. I know that kids are selfish, and that is the way they need to go through. Guess everything will find its place. I don't have kids so I don't have this tolerance managed yet.
Your friends grandchildren are raised in different manner so maybe it is too hard to show your own way of behaving to them, so you maybe stay reserved and save your nerves

[Victoria'smom]

You basically got your conversation interrupted . its not her fault or yours it just happens its not jealously just upset about the interruption that's normal.

[jadzea]

Personally, I think parents allow their children to run their lives too much. Your friend's daughter is old enough to know that she should not interrupt her mother. Your friend was involved in a conversation with you. Her daughter had nothihng that was so important to say that she could not wait.

I had a friend that did the very same thing. We would be involved in a conversation or doing something and the second one of her children walked in the room it was like I wasn't there. I could understand if they were infants but these were older children and it would not have hurt them to wait.

This type of attutude from the parent is one reason why the youth of today are so selfish and inconsiderate. They have never had to think about anyone but themselves and they don't know how to act among people. We are not doing our kids any favors. They are the ones that will suffer in the long run.