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I resisted the urge to comment because this thread is so old, but some of the replies hit me close to home so I felt I needed to speak up.
Here is a list of just a few people who came from traditional, 2 parent homes and didn't turn out so great: Jeffrey Dahmer John Wayne Gacy Eric Harris Diane Downs Gary Lee Sampson Richard Ramirez When the father is there it's always "it had to be something else" but when a child is raised by a single parent that's the first thing people want to blame. The only reason nuclear families were so common in the 1950s was because they were necessary for the survival and welfare of women, who were not able to care for themselves due to systematic oppression. But somehow America has built its entire identity around that and the collapse of the "traditional family" is the only thing they want to blame for the world's problems. Believe it or not, kids (and people in general) DID commit crimes back then. You just didn't hear about it as much partially because of the lack of media (no internet and news broadcast was limited) and partially because many of the victims were POC (as a matter of fact society took all of their psychopathic tendencies out on POC). To prove my point, you wouldn't even know the little boy OP is talking about existed if it weren't for the internet. I for one am happy that this generation is being taught to marry for love (and whoever you love) if and when you choose to, not because it's necessary for your survival or in order to become a parent. Children need to be loved, cared for, protected and educated. It doesn't matter if it's a single parent, 2 heterosexual parents, 2 homosexual parents, the grandparents, or an adoptive parent. When I was pregnant with my daughter (who I lost to stillbirth) I was going to be a single mother. I was also very poor(living on $200 a month after rent) I managed to buy her everything she needed. A few months after I lost her, my friend (who is married and makes more than I ever did) was about to go into labor. They had no car seat, no clothes, no bottles. I had to donate my daughter'sthings to them. Who do you think was the better parent then? IMO, blaming a family structure is just as bad as racial, gender, or religious stereotyping. *climbs off soapbox* |
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