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#1
May 29, 2008, 09:37 AM
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My 16 year old daughter told me last night that sometimes she feels that my husband (her stepdad of 3 years) looks at her chest (she's rather busty). It makes her feel very uncomfortable. She said he has never behaved in an inappropriate manner toward her. She also found pornographic materials on his computer a couple of years ago, which is contributing to her feelings. I want to handle this situation immediately and appropriately!
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#2
May 29, 2008, 10:30 AM
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This is a hard one - as what her stepfather is doing could be a simply notice and turn away thing that many people do and it means nothing what so ever to him - but on the other hand it is making your daughter feel uncomfortable, therefore, it needs to be addressed...... and should be.
I personally would talk with your husband about it (in private) and see what he has to say...... he might not even be aware that he is doing this - as it almost seems second nature (unconscious) for men to notice a busty women, but some times that is all he is doing "noticing her" - heck I usually can't walk past a busty female with out looking myself..... then I move on. |
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#3
May 29, 2008, 12:45 PM
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I agree with Rhap, delicacy and privacy is very important in this matter!
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#4
May 29, 2008, 08:38 PM
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Definately talk to your husband. It's nice to hear that you have an open dialog with your daughter.
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May 31, 2008, 10:08 PM
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I too want to congratulate you on the open dialogue! Thats a fabulous thing to have with your daughter.
I also agree with PP, (previous posters) in that it should be handled delicately, because I too, when seeing someone busty, can "look" without meaning to. It seems to be an almost natural reaction I think. I wish you the best of luck! |
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#6
Dec 31, 2011, 05:53 AM
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Along that same train of thought as posted above: when my sister is not wearing a bra or bends over, and parts of her anatomy are exposed, I catch myself looking. I have no idea why because I am not sexually attracted to her in any way. She is my sister, but still I look. Your husband might only realize he is looking at your daughter till after deed has been done. Not looking will need to be on his mind constantly in order for him to beat it.
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#7
Mar 06, 2012, 12:54 AM
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Talk with your husband ASAP on that matter.
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#8
May 13, 2012, 09:11 PM
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Talk to your husband, try not to make it a confrontion, but if he really is "checking her out" that is a big problem.
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May 21, 2012, 05:42 AM
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This thread is 4 years old, I expect she's had a word by now
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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