rebellious daughter

i really don't know why I am writing to you all when you don't know who I am...or do I know you, except by what I read....have you heard of the show "SNAPPED"? I am really starting to understand them,,,in a way lol...
I have a 16 yr old that is out of control..she is very disrespectful...abusive,
towards me and others..and by the way I am raising her 7month old daughter as well...I am a widow and never had a chance to grieve over her father's death since I have had to provide . My daughter is in counseling for her behavior, her bouts of rage is getting out of hand, the counseling isn't working....so I am at my wits end....any suggestions?

> her bouts of rage is getting out of hand...

Sounds like someone in complete panic and confusion. I hope you can find someone who understands that and is able to work with her.

Actually, you might have her come to Psych Central -- if you could work out a way so that you both could be here but did not interfere with each other...

have you spoken to her counselor with your concerns?

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It does sound like she is hurting and confused ..... i don't know what your relationship is like with your daughter ,,,, I hope t councelling helps you both, could you possile sit down with a couple of hours to spare, just you and her, and hold her, ask her what is making her hurt, maybe she is also grieving, just like you and has no outlet? Maybe you need to grieve together? Please tak to us here, reach out, wishing you all the very best, i do think she is in emotional pain .... hugs, Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxo

littlehands, my daughter and I are beginning to go to a family counselor together. She has her own therapist, but they are not working on family concerns (or if they are, there has been no change in outcomes). I am hopeful that working together with a professional will help. That way she and I can both hear each other's concerns, with a trained professional there to help. Have you thought of going for counseling with your daughter to a family therapist?

After I wrote the last time about my daughter, things are still bad
I now am being physically abused and I have a sprained foot, and a bruised heart. What will it take to solve this without removing her from my home? I don't want her to be placed in juvenile I want her to realize how hurt I am by her outbursts,,,how her own daughter (8 months old) is being affected as well. I have been abused so badly as a child, and when she goes off on me flashbacks occur..and I am afraid I could hurt her, because of it..I haven't told her about my abuse(to the extent) because of the shame and not telling anyone hardly, because who cares anyway?Been a very long time. and they are all deceased. But I am barely hanging on, so many bad thoughts are going on in my head, and no one do I have to talk too. I don't believe coming from where I have been, who could understand SRA anyway? Any suggestions?

I think that if it is getting that bad you need outside help, juvy might be the answer unfortunately. You cannot allow her to continue to abuse you and potentially her daughter... You have got to use some tough love here and do what you must!

TJ