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#1
Nov 19, 2008, 05:44 AM
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As long as i can remember, ive been worried about what my parents think and worried about upsetting them. like at age eight i was scared of throwing old clothes my mum'd given me incase she got upset and felt hurt.
i was afraid to tell them i didnt want to do ballet, or be christian. basically i was too scared to live my life because i was just terrified of making them unhappy and not being good enough. then about a year ago, some stuff happened at school; and i snapped. i stopped wanting to be a doctor. i quit ballet. i stopped going to church. and not out of laziness, i was just genuinely unhappy. now they think im a dissapointment. they think ive changed. and now they act like they hate me, and i feel like im just in no way their favourite. how can i show them that i havent changed, i just want to be myself? x |
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Nov 19, 2008, 12:32 PM
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not sure how you can convince them you havent changed, have you just sat and tried talking to them, preasure at school can make anyone snap, not sure how old you are, but maybe going over some of the stuff that you want to do instead of the stuff they want you to do
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Nov 19, 2008, 12:48 PM
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Good for you for finally living your life for yourself instead of for them. Why can't you just explain it to them like you just explained it to us?
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Nov 19, 2008, 02:19 PM
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bananasarecool
It sounds like you stopped doing what you did not want to do in the first place. Which is ok. You need to be you to be healthy and happy.. Growing up myself I know i did not do it the way my parents thought I should. But it was my way. Yes i made misstakes here and there as you will. But you really truly have to be happy with yourself. As long as you cause no harm to anyone...I am sure being you is A good thing. Maybe you can show your parents this post. So they can see you have changed into the real you  Which is really no change..... As far as being thier favorite.... Just be thier child if you can which is being you Muffy |
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#5
Nov 19, 2008, 04:12 PM
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You know, we can't live our lives for our parents. We have to live our lives for ourselves and be happy doing that. Once YOU are ready please sit them down and tell them what YOU want to do with your life and what you have been doing to please them. You are good enough, no matter how they feel about your choices!
TJ 
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#6
Nov 19, 2008, 05:15 PM
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exactly... its like ive been living my life how THEY want me to, so its not really been mine until now.. well i just dk anymore... arrghh lifes so confusing atm. id kill to be five years older.
i think im gonna talk to them after school tomorrow, i just hope they dont think im pathetic for making such a big deal outta this... =/ thanks peeps =] x |
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#7
Nov 20, 2008, 01:39 PM
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You are not pathetic for making a big deal out of this. This is a big deal!
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