[kim1975]

I am on SSD and after I pay the bills, and pay for anything extra in the month, like food for my animals and such, depending on what month it is or if it is winter or not, it is very hard sometimes to pay for all the food that I need for the month. I used to get help from the FoodShare, but that was only $16 a month. The past year or more I haven't gotten any help from them. Alot of times right now I have to eat the main meal at my mother and brother's house and there are many days where I can't stand them.

We used to live together and I would be the one who would have to take care of my mother 24/7, though she could handle some things by herself, she wouldn't. Then I would also have to do things for my brother, his laundry, mowing the lawn, cooking for the both of them, etc. etc. etc. I was the adult one in the family and those two acted like children, though they treated me as if I was the child in the family. Anyway, I felt used because I wasn't able to find a place on the outside that I could pay the rent on and have with my animals. So finally I had enough, told them who's who and what for. I am living in my brother's old mobile home while they live in a newer mobile home 2 houses down. That is too close for my liking. And they know I am so tight on money, sometimes they buy me things other than some food. I know them, and worry that eventually they are going to have me back in the same position of taking care of the both of them when they can make it on there own.

My mother does nothing but hoard stuffed animals and play with them when she is not LIVING in the bathroom. She has OCD and is legally blind. She refuses to try or even make any decisions for herself, including what stuffed animal to hold. She used to drag me down with that question all the time. She favoritizes my brother, and yet I was the one who took constant care of her and she had been controlling every aspect of my life and made sure I did everything imaginable for her. It is too stressful to deal with an OCD, child in an adult's body, getting yelled at, and I yelled back. I'm in my 30's. I didn't need to be treated like that. I have had to deal with too many things because I was broke and family will use that against you.

The government doesn't help us enough to be able to live comfortably enough with what we have. Yet, my mother wants and gets waited on hand and foot and sits there and plays with stuffed animals and has no responsibility and has no credit. I mean, who has no credit when they are in there 60's. Now I have been making my brother care to her needs since 2011. And I has had to make some threats to get them to leave me alone and take care of themselves. The only thing different there is, she doesn't yell at him and does whatever he tells her to do. He also works, so then he has to come home and tend to her every need. Now maybe he'll realize just how hard it was when I was working to come home and take care of a woman who acts like she is paralyzed. Yeah, it is very hard to live broke in the world of today. Family uses you, and the government hardly gives us enough to survive.

[shortandcute]

Lots of hugs to you; I know it's frustrating.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by kim1975

I am on SSD and after I pay the bills, and pay for anything extra in the month, like food for my animals and such, depending on what month it is or if it is winter or not, it is very hard sometimes to pay for all the food that I need for the month. I used to get help from the FoodShare, but that was only $16 a month. The past year or more I haven't gotten any help from them. Alot of times right now I have to eat the main meal at my mother and brother's house and there are many days where I can't stand them.

We used to live together and I would be the one who would have to take care of my mother 24/7, though she could handle some things by herself, she wouldn't. Then I would also have to do things for my brother, his laundry, mowing the lawn, cooking for the both of them, etc. etc. etc. I was the adult one in the family and those two acted like children, though they treated me as if I was the child in the family. Anyway, I felt used because I wasn't able to find a place on the outside that I could pay the rent on and have with my animals. So finally I had enough, told them who's who and what for. I am living in my brother's old mobile home while they live in a newer mobile home 2 houses down. That is too close for my liking. And they know I am so tight on money, sometimes they buy me things other than some food. I know them, and worry that eventually they are going to have me back in the same position of taking care of the both of them when they can make it on there own.

My mother does nothing but hoard stuffed animals and play with them when she is not LIVING in the bathroom. She has OCD and is legally blind. She refuses to try or even make any decisions for herself, including what stuffed animal to hold. She used to drag me down with that question all the time. She favoritizes my brother, and yet I was the one who took constant care of her and she had been controlling every aspect of my life and made sure I did everything imaginable for her. It is too stressful to deal with an OCD, child in an adult's body, getting yelled at, and I yelled back. I'm in my 30's. I didn't need to be treated like that. I have had to deal with too many things because I was broke and family will use that against you.

The government doesn't help us enough to be able to live comfortably enough with what we have. Yet, my mother wants and gets waited on hand and foot and sits there and plays with stuffed animals and has no responsibility and has no credit. I mean, who has no credit when they are in there 60's. Now I have been making my brother care to her needs since 2011. And I has had to make some threats to get them to leave me alone and take care of themselves. The only thing different there is, she doesn't yell at him and does whatever he tells her to do. He also works, so then he has to come home and tend to her every need. Now maybe he'll realize just how hard it was when I was working to come home and take care of a woman who acts like she is paralyzed. Yeah, it is very hard to live broke in the world of today. Family uses you, and the government hardly gives us enough to survive.

Bless you, I personally know things can be really difficult. But hang in there and try to take comfort and joy where you can. Little things matter and so do what I like to term Life's Tender Mercies!!!!!! Wishing you peace and strength!

[Hellion]

Have you applied for food stamps or ebt? if you're on disability I would think you would qualify...it may be worth looking into, that would at least help with food. I don't blame you for not being able to stand your family at times, they sound pretty hard to deal with.