[Ihani]

For years now I've been identifying as aromantic asexual, until recently I realized that I've been hiding behind labels and I'm actually gay. I'm a trans man who does experience attraction to other men (although infrequently) and something similar to romantic attraction as well, but I'm not quite sure if that's what that really is or not.

However, for years now I've been sex repulsed, and I've come to figure out that a large part of my repulsion to sex and romance is a) my own personal anxiety (I'm pretty sure I have a fear of intimacy, but I don't know) and b) gender dysphoria. If I imagine myself as a straight woman having sex with a man it is so disgusting I get sick to my stomach and my anxiety flares up, but if I imagine myself as a gay man, I'm okay.

I fear that this will get in the way in the future if I ever decide to pursue a relationship and I'm wondering if anyone else has similar experiences to this and if they've ever managed to overcome it. I'd appreciate any advice on the matter if possible.

[TheSeamster]

I actually have had a very similar experience. I identified as a sex repulsed asexual, but as I began transitioning, I found a lot of my repulsion came from my own dysphoria. As I've become more comfortable with my body, I've become less repulsed by the idea of intimacy. I'm still ace, but the idea of being intimate no longer makes me wanna vomit.

Your anxiety is totally normal. And it shouldn't stop you from having a fullfilling relationship. You just need to find a partner(s) who you can be open with. Communicating your feelings and needs is important. That's the foundation for a healthy relationship
Your comfort in any intimate setting is important.

That's all I really have advice wise. The best you can do is be open and honest. Hope this was some help, or at least supportive.