[kamly234]

Hi all! One of my friends is seriously considering undergoing a sex reassignment surgery, but she is bit afraid of the argument that changing sex is morally wrong. I'm completely against that argument and I'm trying my best to support her, to make her feel confident. I have already talked with her surgeon about her worries. I would like to know if any of you have had an ftm surgery, also your good experience if any so that I could share it with her. I read few blogs explaining tips to speedy recovery for a transgender cosmetic surgery and those were really useful. Do you have anymore tips to share?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by kamly234

Hi all! One of my friends is seriously considering undergoing a sex reassignment surgery, but she is bit afraid of the argument that changing sex is morally wrong. I'm completely against that argument and I'm trying my best to support her, to make her feel confident. I have already talked with her surgeon about her worries. I would like to know if any of you have had an ftm surgery, also your good experience if any so that I could share it with her. I read few blogs explaining tips to speedy recovery for a transgender cosmetic surgery and those were really useful. Do you have anymore tips to share?

your friends treatment provider will be explaining all that to her as it pertains to her situation, religion, culture and locations laws.

in my location and culture it is neither illegal nor morally wrong.

tips again she will need to follow what ever her own treatment providers tell her to do. she will get a full briefing and information for before, during and after care from her own treatment providers.

tips for you, just accept her\him for who ever she\he is and accept that this is something that she \he is doing for their own mental and physical health\ and situation. it is no reflection on you and your choices, morals unless you choose to make it so since its not happening to you.

[Rand.]

First, I'd like to commend you for looking out for your friend and being supportive!

There are a lot of different ftm surgeries. There isn't just "the one". While I haven't had any yet, it is something that will happen down the road for me. While there's almost always going to be doubts, it's really important that your friend doesn't do something that will ultimately be regretted later - especially something so permanent. They need to take some time - or a lot of time - to do their own research and come to their own conclusions. I'd also recommend trying to find an LGBT counselor for them to talk to if that is at all possible.

Whether or not it is morally acceptable is very personal. Are they concerned for religious reasons? General internal values? Something else? Whatever it is, there's bound to be arguments on both sides. And it isn't always about who's "right" or "wrong". Ultimately, a person needs to find what's right for them, and if that's surgery or not... it'll be different for everyone. It's not a simple or easy process. That's why I was recommending a counselor.

As for recovery and such, the surgeon will be able to help with that as well as going over the risks and possible complications. They'll also be able to give suggestions to prepare for the surgery and for after-care. If your friend smokes, they'll most likely be told (not asked) to quit for some time before and after the procedure. Eating right and being physically active as possible are generally good things to prepare.