how does one stop masturbating?

I am sick and tired of masturbating. I am a teenager who is in his third year in high school and feels really annoyed because he cannot seem to break this habit. Now I recently talked to a male counselor about this problem and he said it had something to do with my hormones. Well, if that were true, then how come none of the guys I know masturbate? Isn't it a gross habit? Can circumcision do away with masturbation?

I also feel very lonely at times. for some reason i feel like people actually know what I have been doing because the morning I get back to school I get a lot of salacious looks in return. I also notice that on the days I do this, people are not as social with me as they are normally. It seems like everybody knew beforehand, so they decided to ignore me in advance because many times I am being brushed off to the side and i don't know if guys actually felt like this in high school. Has any of you been there, done that?

Buddy, we have ALL been there! It may be news to you but EVERYONE does it. If they say they don't (especially high school boys) they are lying! It is not gross. It is completely normal for a kid of your age. The only reason you feel like people are acting strangely like they know is your paranoia because you feel guilty about it. Don't feel guilty at all and I think you'll find that amazingly people won't be acting strangely to you anymore. It's just your perception.

I suppose that having a boyfriend/girlfriend would alleviate your feelings of loneliness. And if you were sexually active with them it might help this appetite for masturbation but you really should be in love to be having sex.

All-in-all, your feelings are the same ones we have all had. Don't let them get you down. Believe it or not, this is the best time of your life. Enjoy it. Masturbate discretely in private when you want to. Many of us even use it to relieve stress and anxiety! I know I do!

yeah but masturbating makes me stutter like sometimes i have a hard time trying to find the right words to express myself and I'm simply attribute my problem to masturbation. I mean, what else? On days that I don't relieve myself, I don't have this issue, but on the days that I do take up this habit, I feel relaxed but only for an instant. After a while, I feel cranky and begin to realize that my speech is faltering. I hate when that happens.

and for the most part I find myself crying at the end of the day. I can't grasp this fact, but it seems like I get very lonely when I masturbate. And when I'm lonely and nobody is there to talk to me about anything--just anything--I start thinking,"It's got something to do with masturbation." People seem to have prior knowledge of what I do before I do and people often show that by ignoring me beforehand. YOu may think I'm being paranoid, but I'm serious, this always happens and I wish it didn't.

I think the two are mostly unrelated, feeling sad/crying and masturbation. I also am sensing guilt, but you don't have anything to feel guilty about. Everyone does it, and your friends are lying to you if they say they don't. Sexual desire can be related to testosterone. A healthy teenager has plenty of that. Testosterone also contibutes to aggression. I attribute this to evolution, a way for our bodies to push us to reproduce. Around 16 both men and women go through a lot of changed and hormones are a big part of that. Masturbation is only a problem if it is hampering your life. If it is like 15 times a day then you may want to go to the doctor and make sure nothing is going on that could drive your sex drive up. I think your feeling guilty about it and projecting those feelings onto the actions of other people.
I think your feeling sad because you are missing a sense of belonging. Having a good family life/interaction, friends and partners provides this dynamic. I don't know what is going on in your life, but I sense you lack support from those around you. I grew up in a crappy family, my resolution was to get through school and get away from the drug addicts and alcoholics and have people in my life that are positive influences. I hope this helps.

i think what started this was when i first discovered a mass of nude photos which somehow escalated into occasional porn watching. Recently I have gotten a filter but since I have access to the addon it is easy for me to just log in and change the settings. Plus I also think that someone out there might be cursing me because I seem to want to quit the habit when I'm thinking clearly.
a lot of times I allow myself to just get behind my room and start doing things privately so as to avoid punishment.
Now I just don't feel that at all. i mean, i recently spoke with a psychotherapist about this matter and he said that when he was a kid, he used to hang around guys who watched a lot of porn and when I heard about it, I wasn't surprised. I mean, I'm pretty sure there are some guys my age that are doing this privately as well. I even heard from a friend of mine who recommended that I check out a porn star online. I was a little shocked, but then i realized that we're teenagers and many of us make tons of mistakes before we can clean up our act.

hey bud.. masturbation is completely normal. I do it at least 3 times a day. im every open to my friends as they are to me. my one friend does it at least 5 times aday. I do when im bored. or when im aroused sexually. its completely normal process for males and females of any age. don't feel guilty. their is nothing to be guilty. I even know kids who do it in the bathroom at school(now that's kinda weird but hey its their life) anyway I know girls in their 30's who do it. even when they are married. its good to have that time with yourself. you know what you like and don't like, keep your head up bud

I suggest you bring out your inner "player" and start meeting tons of chicks.

what do you mean inner player?

i really don't want to do it anymore. i want to quit. many of my friends,i'm pretty sure, don't have this problem. I have been hiding in my own bubble for too long. I need to tell someone, not my friends. Of course, it seems like sometimes they know what I'm doing. Like on the weeks I watch porn, they don't seem to want me around. It seems like someone tip them off or they just happen to be able to sense things. I wish I wasn't addicted to porn in the first place. I'm in serious trouble.
true some guys actually do it at school but don't people ever know? I mean, they can still smell you, can't they, when all that semen lands onto your shirt?

All i mean is if you don't like masturbating get out there and meet girls and get laid
edit: ok i read some of your posts' , umm i guess if u just wanna stop masturbating try not to think of it too much. Take up some hobbies and keep yourself busy
also masturbating isn't really a big deal , i think pretty much everyone does it except for maybe the pope or something .

its all about clean up hahahahahha but I understand where your coming from. but just so you know if you go to long without masturbating you will self "cum" the minute you get aroused. it wont matter where you are or what your doing. I spent a week in a hospital for depression and the guys were going off left and right because we weren't aloud any alone time. it was bad. but just keep that in mind. maybe cut back. once a week or so ya know?

going around and having sex with anything with a vagina has some problems to it aswell. std's children when your not ready for them. just if your gonna go that rout be safe and smart about it

i don't think about it. it just so happens that when i do masturbate, i dwell on it. normally my mind is blank. but when I'm alone and if I'm on the internet, then I'll be tempted to look elsewhere. I want to go out with my friends on the weekends, but since it's junior year and a lot of students are taking aps and preparing for the sat exams there's no way I can get out of it. Plus I don't feel motivated to leave home and I don't see why I should unless my books from the library are due. Ever since I moved here, I've been isolated from my childhood friends but I have made some; it's just so different here. i am sick of it. I need to stop. You think it's not that big of a deal, but I think it is, because before I had a life, which meant I went out and did things with friends; Now i feel like a total loner. sometimes the friends i have don't understand me and they can offer no help whatsoever because obviously some of them are probably stuck in the same position as i am, but how can they be? they're studying for subjects that take up 3 hours of reading and I'm not. I wish I did. I have no life.

Do you feel you may be using masturbation for a replacement for your depression?

By "the guys were going off left and right", do you meaning they were wanking it on either side of you, or that they were going bonkers because they couldn't do so with other people around?

Are there certain times when you think about this? Are you feeling any sort of way when you do think about it?

by going off left and right I mean the were "cumming" in their pants uncontrollably. I mean for all I know they were going to town on themselves when I was sleeping.but as long as they didn't get any on me and I didn't know I didn't have a problem with it

With out knowing too much of your back ground it's a little hard to get to the root of this question to answer it in a way that is constructive. But, I'll disclose a bit of myself to you. I didn't masturbate until I was 14. When I discovered masturbation I began doing it frequently until it became a bit of a second nature thing (dirty habit). Masturbation is natural, and a lot of it isn't lust as much as it is release (which it sounds more like a release for you). However to control it I did practice celibacy to gain a little control and discipline over my own body.

These urges are natural and healthy however, maybe your faith suggests that it's a sin, or you may have a personal moral resistance to this. Which from the comment you made about crying and feeling loneliness that you may be resistant because of those feelings. So my advice to you regarding this matter are;

* Acknowledge these feelings.

* Accept that you feel them, and take a moment to think about why you feel these feelings.

* Decipher whether your masturbation is a needed release to alleviate bodily/ mental tension, or just fulfilling lustful desires which may be making you feel bad.

* If you want to stop masturbating, switch practices. Rather than practicing masturbation, find a healthy physical activity replacement. martial arts, Yoga, calisthenics, or a work out program that you can do which is permitable to you. And, all the things listed above are all just as free to do as masturbation, and the side effects are feeling good, getting in shape and feeling healthy.

Now one last thing I want to hit on the head. If you do choose to go down the route of sexual activity, please practice safe sex, with a trusted partner. Be responsible for you and your partner.

Oh, and don't listen to the guys that say they don't masturbate. I assure you they do, and women do too. Just as frequently as men do.