[tavares7]

I'm 16 years old but I have had a real bad fetish with womans underwear for 5 years. I get them any way I can from anyone. I can't help it. I also may be suffering from depression and/or bipolar disorder...
I'm going to a psychiatrist (or psychologist) next week(ish).

But what else can I do?
Will I need to be instituionalized? I feel I may become a predator to other people..

[nowheretorun]

meet with the doctor and be honest.. explain to him your goals in healing.. best wishes to you always

[MittensxonxKittens]

Originally Posted by tavares7

I'm 16 years old but I have had a real bad fetish with womans underwear for 5 years. I get them any way I can from anyone. I can't help it. I also may be suffering from depression and/or bipolar disorder...
I'm going to a psychiatrist (or psychologist) next week(ish).

But what else can I do?
Will I need to be instituionalized? I feel I may become a predator to other people..

Okay I'm just gonna put this right out there!
I wear em' every day mostly because I can't fit any other kind under my pants but also because I prefer them to mens...
While I was dating my ex I used to wear lingere in bed all the time.
There's nothing wrong with you and it DOES NOT make you any kind of predator or insane in any way.
And hell... theres nothing wrong with just buying them... you don't have to announce that there for you to the whole store people used to think I was shopping for my girlfriend or something... It's a bit obvious now that I'm not lol
After all that I feel like I should point out that while I'm gay it doesn't mean that you are... (unless you are I don't actually know :P )
People have different "kinks" there's nothing wrong with that...
Basically my advice would be to just go with it... it's not wrong or freakish at all.

[Trustedsouls]

Hello Tavares

O.K. my step-son who is 22 now is a drag queen. He does drag shows for aliving. He makes about $1500 just on the weekends alone. His mother is taking me on fathers day for a dinner and a show. My sons show. The best thing that my son did was tell his mom were all her underware went. LOL!!! he would steal his sisters and mothers woman wear. I think its funny as hell but they didn't. You see when he came out and told us that he was gay and liked to wear what females wear he not only became a better person for being honest with not only everyone else but to himself. He's alot happier and the fear of letting himself be known is gone. Now he just has to work on his ego. Now he just thinks that he is the cuteness and most lovable kid on earth. He really does love himself that much. But at less he knows that his mom as well as I would back him in anything that he does. One day he told his mother that he was very fearful of letting me know. but that is all that there was to it fear. once he got past the fear. Man did he grow. Don't let your fears of being yourself stop you from living because that would be worst then not being yourself at all...Don't live a lie. Start to live with peace within yourself and don't care what anyone says. If your happy in your own skin then who has the right to judge you anyways. The only one that can judge you is God. So the rest of them can just go and cry else were. Now next time i come on here i hope that your dragged out in style. So show them my friend. Have a great 24 my friend and remember? Stay out of your sisters and mothers drawers. Go and buy your own....Do hand me downs for you. LOL

Originally Posted by tavares7

I'm 16 years old but I have had a real bad fetish with womans underwear for 5 years. I get them any way I can from anyone. I can't help it. I also may be suffering from depression and/or bipolar disorder...
I'm going to a psychiatrist (or psychologist) next week(ish).

But what else can I do?
Will I need to be instituionalized? I feel I may become a predator to other people..

[trevorzero]

I hope you will come to realize that every individual has the right to enjoy his or her own particular pleasures. This is your RIGHT. You don't need to apologize to anyone or to feel inferior to anyone.

Be proud of who you are and the unique qualities that you possess.

Originally Posted by tavares7

I'm 16 years old but I have had a real bad fetish with womans underwear for 5 years. I get them any way I can from anyone. I can't help it. I also may be suffering from depression and/or bipolar disorder...
I'm going to a psychiatrist (or psychologist) next week(ish).

But what else can I do?
Will I need to be instituionalized? I feel I may become a predator to other people..

Hello Tavares: This is my first time in the Men's Forum. I don't typically post, or reply to posts, here. This is because, although my birth gender is male & I've always lived as a male, my gender identity is & has always been female.

I'm in my 60's now; & when I was young, no one I knew had ever heard of such conditions as transgender, transsexual, and so forth. Or, if they did, they never talked about it. I learned very early in my life, I don't know how, that this was something I must never talk about. And so I kept the secret for many decades & just felt weird & perverted. (I have a bunch of posts in the Transgender Forum about my history if you're interested.)

Anyway, I wanted to reply to your post because I know something about this topic as do others who've replied to your post. You've already received some good advice from several other PC members. I want to address your written concerns directly.

First of all, you will NOT need to be institutionalized! Nowadays the only people who are "institutionalized" are convicted criminals. They are sent to prison. So, as long as you don't turn to a life of crime, you needn't worry about institutionalization.

You mentioned you'll be seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist. Perhaps you already have at this point. Psychiatrists typically just prescribe medications. Psychologists talk with you about your mental health struggles & try to help you to resolve them or learn ways to adapt. So, depending on which type of professional you are seeing, you will probably have a different experience. If you're seeing a psychiatrist now, I hope that arrangements can be made for you to also see a psychologist or another type of therapist. It's going to be important for you to have someone to talk with about your concerns. And, as another PC'er here said, it's important to be honest about your concerns with this person.

As other commenters have written here, there's nothing to be ashamed of here. Many men enjoy wearing women's clothing. You didn't say if your parents know of your love of women's underwear. If not, perhaps a psychologist or other type of therapist can help you to figure out a way to tell them, if you feel you can. This would make it much easier to buy & care for your clothes. If this is not an option, then it becomes a question of if you have enough money buy what you want.

I think the important thing here is that you figure out a way to acquire the lingerie you want without having to sneak around & get it any way you can from anyone. This is the thing that is going to cause you ongoing guilt & make you feel like you're at risk of becoming a predator. When you can just march into the store & buy what you want you won't have that guilt. It may feel a bit uncomfortable the 1st few times you do it. But after a while you won't think twice about it... I guarantee. You can also shop on-line if you prefer.

The last thing I want to bring up is with regard to your sexual orientation & gender identity. You don't mention anything about this in your post. But I have to believe that a 16 year old young man who feels he has a fetish for women's underwear, must have some questions regarding what this means in terms of his sexual orientation & / or gender identity. These are also good topics to discuss with your psychologist or therapist. I know the embarrassment and confusion that I felt as a teenager over my sexuality & gender identity problems not understanding what was going on with me & having no one to talk to.

So, with that, I will wish you the very best. Should you wish to correspond further with regard to this, I'd be glad to do so with you. Feel free to Private Message me.