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Sep 24, 2014 at 10:30 PM
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HELP! I believe I have been in a M.L.C. for 1.5 yrs. now. I was divorced 2.25 yrs ago after being married for 10yrs and together 13yrs. due to an affair. Then I started dating, met a wonderful lady. But apparently she wasn't good enough in my eye. So I met another and started dating her while leading the other on so she would still be there waiting in the wings. I just read a couple articles that led me to this site. Bottom line is this I have hurt two beautiful women that did absolutely nothing but trust me and I let them down in every way possible! I'm not a bad guy but I need some in-site into my actions!?!? Help
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Location: Michigan
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Sep 25, 2014 at 06:56 AM
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Welcome to PC.
Divorce can take a long time to get over. I played the field quite a bit after my divorce. I wanted so much to be free to do that. What got to me after a couple of years of doing what you are was one girls 16 year old son got in my face and told me straight up that I was using his mom. He was right and it got to me. __________________ The "paradox" is only a conflict between reality and your feeling of what reality "ought to be." -- Richard Feynman Major Depressive Disorder Anxiety Disorder with some paranoid delusions thrown in for fun. Recovering Alcoholic and Addict Possibly on low end of bi polar spectrum...trying to decide. Male, 50 Fetzima 80mg Lamictal 100mg Remeron 30mg for sleep Klonopin .5mg twice a day, cutting this back |
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Location: Canada
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Sep 25, 2014 at 09:52 AM
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I can definitely understand how you are lost about how to deal with this situation. I also think I can understand how you got yourself into it. You were married for a long time, with your complete life entrusted to ONE other. For whatever the reason, you found yourself freed of the limitations of a long term committed relationship. I mean why not find yourself mutiple partners, and enjoy not being tied to one person. I know if I split from my wife, I'd be sleeping with any guy or girl that would have me.
Anyways, you're in a crisis because you have morals. You have proven that you can commit to your partner, and now you are in unknown territory. You could be a prick and not care, but you do. Maybe you let your freedom and your penis lead you to your predicament, but you AREN'T a bad guy. You would be a bad guy if you didn't see an issue with this situation or could see it but not care. I know it's hard, but the best recommendation I have is to be honest to them, and ask their forgiveness. You can either tell them both that you are dating two women, or you decide who you want to get to know more, and break it off with the other. It shows that you've been honest with yourself, since you've admitted this issue here...now you need to be honest with them. Good luck. |
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