[tmogavero]

Guys, how do we deal with a girl who is perfect has money happy nice job great hobbies is gonna go to a great college wants to be a smart lawyer, and when i am with her i feel as if i am her accesory because of my self worth compared to hers our love towards one another cannot be descibed in words but i am often lost in a tornado that throws around my emotions towards one another because of her success and my normal life its hard to deal with please help getting bad i have often been in my room every day found sitting against the wall listening rto music to clam and soothe me

[mountainhigh]

We all go through phases in our lives. We may have a year or more of great success followed by some down time and our significant others phase may not align with ours. But we still love and support them in difficult and good times. You should be thankfull that you have found someone with all those great charachteristics that may also challenge you to be a better person. Get out of your room and go for it man! I highly doubt that she would be attracted to you if she didn't see potential in you.

[Slothrop]

Yeah, it's hard to be with someone when you perceive them as "better" or more successful. You are probably a perfectly "worthwhile" person, but could use a boost in your opinion of yourself. Like mountainhigh said, you must have something going for you if she is interested in you!

Be careful not to let any negative feelings turn corrosive...there is always a potential that you could start trying to get in her way or bring her down as a way of "evening things out." Don't go there! Be supportive to her and yourself.

Good luck...she sounds like someone worth the effort...

[krzyk101]

I am not able to give much advise of finding a significant other, yet I know from experience the 'depression' or the 'illness' lies to us and tells us we are not worthy, sound like you are a nice guy and just need to wait around until the right girl comes along.

No matter how hard it is it is so important to 'get out of the house' and just be honest and start looking for a female friend to start and maybe things will spark and go into a further committed relationship, never give up on hope. I hope your depression has eased and you are feeling better and be good to yourself, you do have a job I see, so that is a good thing to be proud of and it just takes time to wait for the right girl to come into your life.

I have a chronic problem of believing in the depression and illness that ppl or friends are just going to come crashing through the ceiling in an answer to my prayers, yet, that is not likely I know so I force myself to get out when possible even if just to the market and believe in yourself that the right place at the right time will come along and the rest will be history and stuff.

Best wishes and blessings- krzyk101

[digdug]

Career and academic success and love have little to nothing to do with each other. I say "little to nothing," because I'm sure you sig. other wants you to fulfill your potential, whatever that might be. Believe me, it takes a lot of us a long time to find out what we want to do with our lives.

Incidentally, these days women seem to be having much more success career-wise than us men. The statistics are quite staggering when you look at them. The proportion of female college students - as well as sucessful graduates - is growing significantly. So much so that people have labelled this issue "the boy problem," and that sort of thing.

If you care for one another, that's enough. Having said that, if you feel insecure, try to figure out what you want to do. It's a big world out there with plenty of options, and if you don't succeed at something, try something else.