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Jun 16, 2009, 08:39 PM
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I am in a great relationship with an intelligent and beautiful women, who of which I have been dated for almost 5 months now. Intially what started off as friends with benefits has rapidly turned into practically living with eachother (which I am completely fine with and actually enjoy). When we first began having sex, things were average at best. But shortly there after I began taking medication for my ADHD, which in turn caused me to get very nervous and anxious whenever there was a possibility of sex. This lead to numerous flops in the bedroom, me almost completely losing my libido and convincing myself that I have ED. Anyway, I am hypochondriac and have generalized anxiety which makes this situation practically impossible to ignore. So now whenever we are together I am constantly worried I will not meet her expectations, or live up to my prior performance. These moments of decline have also made me question my 'manhood', and my feelings for her. Both of which make me feel insecure and...well not confident in myself. Especially when I know that I do love her but am just to afraid to admit it just yet.
I have been prescribed levitra, and feel the need to use it only part of the time when anxiety is high...But would rather just get my mind right. I dont know if this is of any significance, and if you have read this far-thanks, but this is my first 'real' relationship in almost 4 years where I have felt the need to be intimate rather than just a random one night stands or some weekend hook-up. |
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Jun 27, 2009, 05:26 PM
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Best to you! ADHD1956 |
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Oct 20, 2009, 02:02 PM
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I think the title you chose for your thread says a lot. Of course, under the circumstances, you are going to have anxiety. You need to build this complicating factor into your expectations for your intimate encounters and realize that you are going to need to make some extra effort. If you had a leg in a cast it would be pretty much the same thing.
Just enter into your encounters with the knowledge that you are facing a particular challenge and then take whatever mental steps you need to in order to meet the challenge.
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Oct 20, 2009, 02:41 PM
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Yep...the title does say it all...
 Tiger doesn't win every tournament...nope,,but he would like too... But he doesn't. That reality will not stop him from playing nor winning. His trick? He deals with only one shot at a time. Period. He doesn't think about the last one or the next one. Just this one. Its beauty,,its perfection,,its promise. If it falls short and as humans it must from time to time,,,he walks up to that silly white ball and does it again. No regrets, no spoiled dreams,,no lost manhood. Just one more shot with the same promise of perfection as any other. When you are with this wonderfully beautifull, intelligent woman,,,be with her. Enjoy the miracle of the moment,,the gift of her company, her care and its promise. And give it all back,,in spades. Don't fret about what might happen,,,enjoy what is happening....  IMHO. Lenny
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