[marmaduke]

Leant helplessness is difficult. It meant I was utterly unable to stick up for myself. Bullied at home bullied at school bullied by neighbours bullied by NPD ex husband.
So shy and timid. Frightened of everyone and everything.
I have managed to relearn and l'm OK now. Well as OK as I'm ever gonna be
Don't give up working on yourself, it takes much time and effort but things can change.
Self esteem is the key. Self esteem is what we lack. Mother made sure I saw myself as useless.

Your brother the lawyer sounds scary.

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[gracebuttercup]

Glad you are doing better Marmaduke. Glad you have reclaimed self esteem.
I am working on it all. From the roots/core on up. I do not know how much self esteem I will ever reclaim. But I know I am working on reclaiming myself. I have hope the progress will continue. Sometimes stuff slams me in the face so I can see and work on it. So now I am working on what has come up. The "opportunity", if you know what I mean.

[marmaduke]

Self esteem can be reclaimed. It might sound impossible but it's not.
Problem its a long process took me 3 years of daily work. Self help books, positive mantras, improving my body language, hypnotism, mindfulness.
Tapping is very good.

And I take meds. Paxil, which works well for me.

Persiverance is the key. Never give up. You'll get there x

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[gracebuttercup]

Originally Posted by marmaduke

Self esteem can be reclaimed. It might sound impossible but it's not.
Problem its a long process took me 3 years of daily work. Self help books, positive mantras, improving my body language, hypnotism, mindfulness.
Tapping is very good.

And I take meds. Paxil, which works well for me.

Persiverance is the key. Never give up. You'll get there x

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yes, yes, yes and yes. Thanks for sharing. I have made much progress from how I was before. A combination of psychological and alternative things. Including meridian tapping. Still have a long way to go. But have made considerable progress. Glad you have seen improvement. Everyone deserves freedom

Originally Posted by marmaduke

Self esteem can be reclaimed. It might sound impossible but it's not.
Problem its a long process took me 3 years of daily work. Self help books, positive mantras, improving my body language, hypnotism, mindfulness.
Tapping is very good.

And I take meds. Paxil, which works well for me.

Persiverance is the key. Never give up. You'll get there x

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Quick derail question- tapping?

[marmaduke]

Tapping or EFT (emotional freedom techniques) involves tapping on meridian points it's like acupuncture it releases trapped energy.
Now I want to say when it was first suggested to me I though 'what a load of rubbish!'.

But it works really well.

There are lots of free videos on you tube. The best I've found is Brad Yates he's really good. And it only takes a few minutes to do.
Give it a try ☺

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[gracebuttercup]

Originally Posted by marmaduke

Tapping or EFT (emotional freedom techniques) involves tapping on meridian points it's like acupuncture it releases trapped energy.
Now I want to say when it was first suggested to me I though 'what a load of rubbish!'.

But it works really well.

There are lots of free videos on you tube. The best I've found is Brad Yates he's really good. And it only takes a few minutes to do.
Give it a try ☺

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A friend who for years has been doing meridian tapping, among a lot of other modalities sent me a very interesting link. Its w video of a woman who demonstrates many different methods of interrupting or redirecting thought patterns. They are very simple. One that she demonstrates is meridian tapping that has been abbreviated. I have the link for the YouTube video. But do not know if posting it here is allowed. I tried to find the video through a Google search and could not. But the YouTube link works. I'm think you might be interested in some of the modalities.

[PandorasAquarium]

Originally Posted by gracebuttercup

Hi there
I have a mom who has classic NPD. First time I knew about it was in 1989 when a psychologist diagnosed it about her. I was wary. I am not someone who believes diagnosis without a significant amount of confirmation. Over the years I got that confirmation from brothers and sisters in law who came to that conclusion on their own. One of whom was a psychologist. Yes, it seems mother is classic NPD. Nothing slight about her symptoms.

After this last visit with her I need to find some support for myself. I am looking for a support forum specifically for relatives of those who have NPD. Since I am a member of this website community I thought I would start looking here.

If anyone knows of an active forum for relatives, I would love to hear about it. Thank you, Grace

Out of the Fog forums.

I spend much of my forum time there. I show occasional "traits" of a PD, but am mostly just getting fleas from my Cluster B loved ones. They have given me a layman's diagnosis which my long-time therapist disagrees wholeheartedly with, but still I came here to learn and help with the anxiety and depression that comes after the abuse. I learn about myself and about my PD loved ones here at psych central.

At OOTF, it is strictly for those of us struggling with PD individuals in our lives to try and understand how to cope and take care of ourselves. You will find the support you're looking for there.

[Daisy_W]

Yes....reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists and /lifeafternarcissism...very safe and supportive.

[lostinsidemyself]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Having a ****ed up abusive father is one thing in our society but when it's your mother?

People often don't believe you at all.

People seldom ever believe me about my mother, because on the outside you'd never know. She's charming as hell, polite, engaging, social butterfly, etc etc... but it's all an act. Underneath she's colder than ice and she has a unique flavor of sadism.

I know this an old comment and I dont have NPD (i was curious) but I wanted to 200% agree with this! My family, nor does anyone, doesnt believe that my mother with a great "real world face" could have possiblity not only abused me but along side my step father raised me in a cult.

"You're sweet mother?" Even my dad whom has been divorced from her since I was 12 says "she wasnt 'like that' when i was married to her"....ummmm, dad, SHE CHANGED!