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Mar 24, 2011, 03:03 AM
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How do I stop the obsessive thoughts I have? I obsess over so many things: Why hasnt this guy called me? Why didnt this friend invite me out? Why did I say this or that? Why doesnt this person talk to me anymore? Why did I agree to do this? Why didnt I agree to do that? I worry and obsess over EVERYTHING in my life... any ideas on how to manage this.. it esp disturbs my sleep time bc that is when I tend to obsess the most.
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Mar 24, 2011, 09:11 AM
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There are a few techniques I recommend - make a list of your worries...one side are things you have no control over and the other side is for things you might be able to solve. Scratch out the ones you don't have control over.
If they keep intruding once you make your list, imagine the thoughts are this little nagging troll on your shoulder. When the thoughts come, imagine you flick him off lol. You can also practice mindfulness - this is concentrating on the task at hand and filtering out the obsessive thoughts. Each time a thoughts pops in, bring yourself back to what you're doing. At bedtime you're going to start a new routine - no more worrying in the bed. Another trick I recommend is, imagine you put all your worries in a locked box, high up in your closet. This is a way of tricking your mind that you're 'done' worrying for the day. While laying in bed, do some slow deep breathing and relax one part of your body at a time. Again you can practice the mindfulness - every time a negative worry pops in, you gently remind yourself to go back to relaxing. Imagine you're melting into the mattress. There's constructive worry and non-constructive worry. You can set aside, lets say 30 min a day to worry only about constructive things. Worrying about things you don't have control over is a waste of time really. I hope these tips help you....good luck. 
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Mar 24, 2011, 11:02 AM
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wow, lynn had great suggestions. my pdoc helped me with crying re a life event/similar to your worrying. said what time in the day do you choose to cry? i said 5-6pm. then he said throughout the day remind myself when i'd tear up that it wasn't my "time" to cry yet. i'd find myself overlooking 5-6pm so i'd say have to wait until the morrow. it helped me immensely. i stopped crying using this method. hugs and hope this helps.
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Mar 24, 2011, 12:18 PM
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Hello, e.kayem. You may get more responses at the OCD forum here:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=72 |
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