[bandgeek230502]

Okay so I’m 16 years old and I’ve always had really good grades and a good family life. I’m first in my class, I’ve played two varsity sports since my freshman year (I’m a junior now), I have great friends (who tease me occasionally), and I love band. My problem is that I have a weird obsession (don’t know how else to label it) with my teachers. It all started back in 2nd grade with my teacher. I started acting like her and pretending that I was her and taught my stuffed animals as she would teach my class. I even bought fake glasses like hers so I could look like her.

Now, I still want to be like all of my teachers. I have a positive body image, but not so much a mental one. I’ll dress like one, and use the same sense of humor as the other. I sort of alter myself to try and become these teachers like they’re my role models. I don’t know what’s triggering it, but I just have this overcoming feeling of wanting these teachers to like me, as in a friendly manner. I’ve planned out personal conversations with them, because I don’t have those kinds of conversations with my mom. She’s never done anything to me, but for some reason I don’t feel comfortable discussing personal issues with her. I’ve always held in my emotions, and it has caused a great deal of stress and anxiety in myself. It’s just this weird urge to have my teachers like me and feel connected with me on a personal level.

Does anyone else ever feel like this, or am I just crazy?

[Daphnelover]

I don't think you are crazy, I think you want to be accepted and you are trying to find out who the real you is? I didn't feel comfortable sharing deep things with my mom until I was much much older. Looking back now, though, I wish I would've opened up to her way sooner. Sometimes moms know a lot! Why don't you try opening up with something small and see how it goes?

[Nike007]

I don't believe you are crazy or that makes me crazy too . I don't have a lot of support from my mom, so I do talk to my teachers about personal stuff and they listen and give me advice if I need it. I just need someone to listen and make me feel comfortable. I always plan conversations in my head about what I want to tell them and of course, it never goes to plan. So some of my teachers know me on a more personal level. Not in some weird romantic way, just in a friendship type of way. I don't know how the teachers are in the US, but here in Canada, it has been easy for me to talk to them. You need to figure out the right person though. Sorry if this doesn't help you, but I talk to my teachers about my life all the time. In fact, I am seeing on of them tomorrow so . I wish you luck .

[bandgeek230502]

Originally Posted by Daphnelover

I don't think you are crazy, I think you want to be accepted and you are trying to find out who the real you is? I didn't feel comfortable sharing deep things with my mom until I was much much older. Looking back now, though, I wish I would've opened up to her way sooner. Sometimes moms know a lot! Why don't you try opening up with something small and see how it goes?

Thank you for responding! I'm going to try opening up to my mom!