Does anyone else feel like they never belong?

avlady · Jan 07, 2015 at 03:04 PM

call me stupid ut i am bipolar, schitzoaffective and depressed, and i dont think im treated any different anymore. people who really know and friends if you have any seem to treat me good still. just saying there are good people out there who care and will go the extra mile to make a mental patient feel wanted.

StarStrike · Jan 07, 2015 at 04:01 PM

I feel like I don't belong. In fact, I feel very lonely even when I'm surrounded by people. I have those that are my friends. Yet, I still feel alone even with having friends. I don't belong anywhere. I just exist.

inthehalflight · Jan 07, 2015 at 08:17 PM

I feel this way almost all the time. I feel that people judge me for being anxious, for being soft-spoken, awkward, for having shaking hands (which are caused by my meds). I feel so discouraged and sad about it, like people just see things that I can't help and judge me without knowing me or my heart.

You are not alone!

Merxis · Jan 08, 2015 at 11:03 AM

I often feel like not belonging which is partially caused by my upbringing. Being told from very young: " you're so different" and always being treated like "different" is not much help. It makes me also feel very alone and scared. Not many people understand how it feels though. Sending big hugs your way.

Jan 08, 2015 at 11:18 AM

the only time i feel i belong is when i'm on these forums.

as an example, yesterday someone was talking about love- and i couldn't help asking them what does it feel like to actually feel loved and wanted

but on here i do so thank you all

Gentle Lamb · Jan 14, 2015 at 01:03 PM

Yes, I do and have all of my life. The words that you have used to describe your situation could have been written by me! Our experiences are so very simular. So you are not alone and it is a very frustrating place to be in life. esp, when no one will tell you why they leave you and you are left guessing! That lack of honest explaination exasperates me to no end!

. Geeze, it they would at least tell you then you would have something to work with right!? But, then there are those mean and nasty personalities, that cut you to shreds with negative criticism, using wounding words that only kill and destroy you and are completely lacking love and compassion! This has been my experience anyway. Now after many years of this I have give up on having any meaningful relationships, I am hoping that this is just a temporary phase.

medicalfox · Jan 14, 2015 at 02:16 PM

Idk I have mixed feelings about it. I want to belong and be successful as the rest of my friends, but I'm not capable of it due to my illnesses so I have to take a different route in life.

stahrgeyzer · May 12, 2023 at 10:05 PM

I've always felt like I don't belong. Like I'm from a different planet or more a different Universe. It's a constant stressful feeling. Wish someone would find a cure for all of these kind of things!

May 13, 2023 at 02:26 PM

It seems like I've felt that way all of my life. I feel like I've done the best I can to be friendly and fit in. It just doesn't happen for me. I'm sure that I could possibly be the cause of it. Now that I'm older, it doesn't bother me as much as it use to.

By the way Stahrgeyzer, it seemed like you went very far back to find a thread and I'm impressed. I think it's nice to see some old threads from time to time.

Calla lily12 · May 15, 2023 at 12:47 PM

Yes especially within my family. I'm an outsider.

eskielover · May 15, 2023 at 02:01 PM

I grew up feeling that way because my parents never belonged so be default I didn't either anywhere my parents were involved. School was my place but I was quiet mostly because I never answered questions unless I knew that I knew the answer because I didn't want to be like my dad who always said stuff he didn't know anything about & was mostly wrong....I thought that sounded stupid & I sure didn't want to sound stupid.

Got confidence with my degree & my career but kept myself mostly on the outside without ever truly belonging. Maybe because it was what I was used to growing up & what my now ex was like in our marriage.

Fast forward to now.....I am still not a huge social person who gets their identity out of belonging BUT the groups I am involved with & the church I go to make me know that I belong. Seriously it is a different feeling & sometimes I catch myself asking if this is truly real because it is so much different than I have ever experienced before. I realize now that just because things were one way for years in our lives they don't have to continue to be that way. HOWEVER I did need to learn how to connect with people after all those years. We have to put in work to change but also our community has to be condusive to that change making a difference

jesyka · May 23, 2023 at 01:50 PM

I’ve felt the dame way that you do. I’ve been bullied & rejected by a lot of people my whole life. My family bullied & rejected me, my husband treated me like nothing I do is good enough, that I’m weird, and even my so called friends seem to not care thar much about me usually. I feel like I’m only neing tolerated at best. I don’t even fit in on this forum, ugh.

zapatoes · May 27, 2023 at 11:23 PM

Yes definitely and have learned have mild learning disability, nonverbal learning disorder. Almost feel as if I have mild autism.

farazn2202 · Jun 13, 2023 at 12:07 PM

Yes, many people experience feelings of not belonging at some point in their lives. It is a common human experience to question one's place in the world and struggle with a sense of belonging. You are not alone in feeling this way.

farazn2202 · Jun 15, 2023 at 06:16 AM

Yes, many people experience feelings of not belonging at various points in their lives. It can be a common human experience to struggle with a sense of belonging.

Buffy01 · Jun 18, 2023 at 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Yesterdays

For as long as I can remember I've felt a lot like I don't really belong too much. In social situations I tend to feel as if I simply don't fit in with any of the people around me. This could be because I'm a bit shy or have a bit of a social phobia? But I don't know, I've always felt like even if I do gather up enough courage to talk to someone about my interests and what not, even if we do have a lot in common I simply don't really 'click' with anyone. I haven't had too many friends in my lifetime and the people I have befriended have eventually lost interest in being around me. So what's with me? Am I boring, stupid, annoying?

I can never figure it out. I mean... there's obviously something up.
Has anyone else ever felt this way before?

Yes all the time.

I noticed that people appear to be nervous around m

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avlady Wise Elder Community Liaison Member Since Jan 2013 Location: angola ny Posts: 9,794 (SuperPoster!) 11 28.8k hugs given	Jan 07, 2015 at 03:04 PM #61 call me stupid ut i am bipolar, schitzoaffective and depressed, and i dont think im treated any different anymore. people who really know and friends if you have any seem to treat me good still. just saying there are good people out there who care and will go the extra mile to make a mental patient feel wanted.
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Merxis Junior Member Member Since Jan 2015 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 14 9 54 hugs given	Jan 08, 2015 at 11:03 AM #64 I often feel like not belonging which is partially caused by my upbringing. Being told from very young: " you're so different" and always being treated like "different" is not much help. It makes me also feel very alone and scared. Not many people understand how it feels though. Sending big hugs your way.
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Anonymous32451 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 08, 2015 at 11:18 AM #65 the only time i feel i belong is when i'm on these forums. as an example, yesterday someone was talking about love- and i couldn't help asking them what does it feel like to actually feel loved and wanted but on here i do so thank you all
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medicalfox Grand Poohbah Member Since Aug 2013 Location: U.S Posts: 1,652 11 974 hugs given	Jan 14, 2015 at 02:16 PM #67 Idk I have mixed feelings about it. I want to belong and be successful as the rest of my friends, but I'm not capable of it due to my illnesses so I have to take a different route in life. __________________ "Unable are the Loved to die For Love is Immortality" -Emily Dickinson
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stahrgeyzer Magnate Member Since Feb 2018 Location: literally hell Posts: 2,357 6 5,660 hugs given	May 12, 2023 at 10:05 PM #68 I've always felt like I don't belong. Like I'm from a different planet or more a different Universe. It's a constant stressful feeling. Wish someone would find a cure for all of these kind of things!
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Calla lily12 Grand Member Member Since Jul 2018 Location: a place far away Posts: 891 6 1,063 hugs given	May 15, 2023 at 12:47 PM #70 Yes especially within my family. I'm an outsider. __________________ Once you are real, you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always....
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zapatoes Grand Magnate Member Since Sep 2018 Location: Islandia Posts: 4,263 6 10.9k hugs given	May 27, 2023 at 11:23 PM #73 Yes definitely and have learned have mild learning disability, nonverbal learning disorder. Almost feel as if I have mild autism.
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farazn2202 Junior Member Member Since Jun 2023 Location: India Posts: 14 1	Jun 13, 2023 at 12:07 PM #74 Yes, many people experience feelings of not belonging at some point in their lives. It is a common human experience to question one's place in the world and struggle with a sense of belonging. You are not alone in feeling this way.
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farazn2202 Junior Member Member Since Jun 2023 Location: India Posts: 14 1	Jun 15, 2023 at 06:16 AM #75 Yes, many people experience feelings of not belonging at various points in their lives. It can be a common human experience to struggle with a sense of belonging.
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