[want-to-b-fair]

Sorry, I am new to this, I had this in relationship -WRONG

Is there a definition for a person that hears what you say about everything and decides to adopt it to the point that you have to inconveniently change what you've been use to doing for years..

The reason why I am confused is because some things were said by this person that clearly shows they have some issues with me. So why are they changing from their VERY UNIQUE style and completely (not using completely lightly) attempting to transform to basically my lifestyle???, what I eat, what I don't eat, how I joke around the office, who I talk to, how I DO THINGS -everything.

Example:

I made a comment about where I go to talk in private, and now when I go there, they are always there- so does this person hear what I say, take it from me and make it their own?

And I may have said something in a girl talk group like " these two colors are my favorite colors - well now all they wear are those colors. I had a habit of wearing those colors days in a row but now they do that.

This person always says things like "well they don't say anything when you do it, why is it a problem when I do it. ( I wanted to ask if she attempting to do it because she saw me do it)!

I named a store I get gifts, clothes, decorations from before I go to the mall and they got a job there. It was my favorite store but I am hesitant to shop there now because I know what the outcome will be.

I knew some issues were there (like maybe a little lost) and I just overlooked it until I heard the hurtful things she said. I was a little annoyed but dealt with it but since I know how she feels about me it is beyond annoyance. I know it is not against the law to do everything someone else does but it is so uncomfortable.

Another thing, this person came to me for advice and later told me that although what I told them was the truth, they were offended by what I said and they replied "I'm working on me"- - (oookkkkaaayyy so, since you got offended by my truthfulness, I have to look at me and you came to me for advice?????

[Rmdctc]

If it bothers you this much I would go talk to the person and tell them how you feel but thats just me.

[Elysium]

I call these types of people Stalkerazis!! They do what ever they can to be like people that they feel connected with in some way. Even if that is a connection that doesn't really exist and they just want it to exist...so they attempt to like everything and go every where you go.

I got a little lost in your post about what the other issues were, other than this person adopting your behaviors, style choices, etc....but I would speak with them and let them know that you have noticed these things and that they bother you. Ask them if they are trying to be like you. Sometimes just having people bring it to there attention and tell them that it irritates you is enough to get them to stop.

Otherwise...tell her to stop raiding your closet and to get her own life.

[VickiesPath]

I get that this is irritating the hell out of you and that this girl should stop this crap and get her own life.

Did you ever hear the saying that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?

Originally Posted by Vickie in Phoenix

Did you ever hear the saying that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?

I was thinking the same thing.

Why not have some fun and feed her false information about yourself? Since she imitates you, that puts you in control.

All sorts of devilish ideas come to my mind . . .

On the other hand, doesn't it kind of feel good that someone wants so much to be like you? I, for one, have never had this particular problem with anybody! Mike

[want-to-b-fair]

Originally Posted by cypher

I was thinking the same thing.

Why not have some fun and feed her false information about yourself? Since she imitates you, that puts you in control.

All sorts of devilish ideas come to my mind . . .

On the other hand, doesn't it kind of feel good that someone wants so much to be like you? I, for one, have never had this particular problem with anybody! Mike

I thank you, and I have heard that BUT try to go four years smiling trying to act like you're not bothered by this person watching your every meal, watching your every day routine, watching how you act, even the way you walk and does it around you. I was really trying to understand if she was trying to ??impress me?? - That is why I wanted some understanding - - (not normal) I got to work late and was putting my make on when she came to my office, well the next day she came in and had changed from her BOLD RED lipstick to the frost color that she saw me applying the day before.- - it started off small annoyances now it is OH SO NOT FLATTERING. No, this is the attention you don't want to experience - BELIEVE ME!!